Sorry to post this on here, I just don’t know how to move on.
I was in a loveless relationship that should have ended but we were too comfortable.
Started spending more time with a friend and her daughters (we had known each other for a couple of years already) who confessed that she too was in a loveless marriage but stayed with him for the sake of the kids.
We fell in love, felt like we had found our soul mates. Made plans to be together as a family. Her friends and family knew about us and were supportive. Broke up with our respective partners. She moved out of their family home. We were happy.
Her husband found out about the affair and made the separation difficult as he felt that the affair was the sole reason for the divorce, not the fact he was a difficult husband and father for his kids.
Stating from the start that she wants whats best for her children (and rightfully so) wanting to make the divorce easier and not having the extra pressure of starting a relationship in these difficult circumstances and feeling guilty for breaking up the family home (even though the children were happier in their new environment) she felt that she couldn’t continue with our relationship.
I was truly heartbroken.
We communicated for a short time after but the pain was too much. I moved out of the area and have tried to move on.
I accept the responsibilities of my actions in having an affair and don’t condone them. I am not looking for sympathy just some advice or understanding.
It’s been 3 years and I still think about the 3 of them everyday.
Thank you for reading.