Is this cheating ?

[feliztime]

2 weeks ago, I had seen on my boyfriends Snapchat that he had sent 2 snaps to this girl. It's a girl from his past. They never had a relationship and he never got with her or anything he just REALLY liked her.

I got talking to the girl to see what was up & she had told me it's her old Snapchat account n that she will log in to see what he had sent. It was 2 snaps , 2 weeks apart but the picture was just a black screen. No wording or nothing.

BF had denied EVERYTHING. He even texted the girl and said he doesn't understand what's going on and that he didn't do this.

I broke up with him, he begged and cried for days and still denied everything, even though the proof was in-front of my eyes. I then told him if he was to tell the truth I would consider things again (I just said this to see if he would finally admit as the lies we're annoying me more than anything now) he finally admits that he had sent this girl snaps via Snapchat and he "doesn't know why" , it really hurts me because when he done this both times I was in bed beside him sleeping.

Is this in a way cheating? I constantly think IF she had of been active on that account and she had of responded where would it of went? What was he looking for? Why did he deny it so hard?

I'll be honest, we've been seeing each other since (we have a baby so it's not as easy) he really wants things to work. In my head tho I don't understand how he can say he loves me if he wanted her attention what was he getting at?

Am I being ridiculous? I'm fed up and I don't know what to do?

In my eyes cheating is as soon as you do something you have to hide from your partner, the intention was there for the messages to progress further if it had been her active Snapchat account, especially 2 separate messages. Others will have different views to me but the second you do something you know your partner wouldn’t be happy with, that’s a problem in my eyes! X

He was trying to fish for her attention. I mean, not cool. But it's hard when you have a baby with someone (as in, hard for YOU to have to deal with someone being sneaky, not HIM just because he has a baby. It's hard for you to decide what to do, I mean).

Yes it’s cheating on you. Just that. Flirting leads to more serious problems.

@feliztime first thing I want to say is well done for standing up for yourself and chucking him! You've shown him you are strong and know your value.

I wouldn't say this was cheating but it was definitely fishing for attention. Bad intent was there. He has shown you he is weak and a liar.

The ball is now in your court. Does a man (sounds like a child) who is weak, tells you lies and proves himself untrustworthy sound like someone you want as a partner? No? Exactly.

You have to co-parent with him but you don't have to accept him as your partner because he clearly doesn't love you as much as he loves himself. His wants and needs are his priority so how much room is left for you or your baby?

He is utterly pathetic. You know you are awesome and you can do so much better.

I agree with this.

Ok, so it didn't go anywhere. But that was only because she didn't give him the opportunity for it to go anywhere by not responding.

If someone does something behind their partners back that they know their partner would be hurt by - thats cheating.

Absolutely this