I feel completely inactive

[GlassHalfFull10]

I know I need to end my marriage but I just can't seem to summon the strength... I have a full on career with deadlines, Christmas coming up, kids are good, nice home, enough money...

But I am so unhappy with him. He is trying to be better so maybe I should give it more time. But I can't even bring myself to kiss or hug him now. I think it's gone too far.

I feel so down and overwhelmed. Our house has gone down in value so he won't agree to sell it or move out... I know this from previous conversations. We have no spare room. So we will have to live together for the foreseeable. I have no family to help me or support. No where to go.

If I told him tomorrow, he will be angry and upset and neither of us can go anywhere. So I just carry on...

I don't know what I'm asking really.

Can you take a break? Stay in a hotel for a few days, take a few days off work?

I think that would make me feel more stressed about all the admin, work and life stuff I need to be on top of atm. Thank you for the reply though… I do appreciate it and it would be lovely if I could!

What would make you feel better? Even if it's something impossible... which direction would you go? Away with the kids? Time alone? Husband vanished? A break from work? Can you narrow it down a bit? It might help you to work out what option to take. It sounds like you might be overwhelmed with trying to make the decision about what to do to solve your overwhelm :)

Ideally I’d fast forward time to me being single and living on my own with an excellent amicable custody arrangement… the amount of hell I will have to go through to get to that is overwhelming. Husband vanishing would be ideal actually then I could stay here without him… I sound awful but it’s true :-(

Is it really financially impossible? Have you looked at what financial help you would get with universal credits? Childcare credits? Single persons council tax discount? Child maintenance?

Can’t he afford a flat?

@GlassHalfFull10 can you explain why it is you feel this way- I am wondering if it's actually 100% about him or more about life generally being a bit shit etc. if it's 100% about him then no judgement from me but knowing what the score is helps with any advice you are offered. Is it anything specific he has done or not doing etc

It’s absolutely financially possible but he will put every roadblock in the way to make it amicable. He’s told me this. We could just about afford to rent another flat but he will refuse to do that. We will have to sell the house which I’m fine with but that kind of thing doesn’t happen fast and I’ll have to live with him in the meantime and he will probably be absolutely vile.

I’ve been unhappy for 2 years. The love has gone unfortunately…

I feel like my life would be less shit without him… I think I might be depressed. I’m lucky as I haven’t felt like this my entire life and I’m late 30s but now I know how grim it is being this low.

@GlassHalfFull10 what do you think is shit about your life OP- because it's very easy I think to feel like the love has gone when in actual fact in some cases it's more that all emotions have gone because you are depressed generally .

you could be right. I hope so. Thank you