Back with the Ex... Engagement ring advice needed!

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I need some advice... I'm back with my ex and I still have our engagement ring which I wear on my non-marriage hand. We plan to marry in the next year (we've had conversations about our expectations) but I'm confused regarding an engagement... Do we get engaged again or do I just transfer the ring back over to my engagement finger? I've no idea what the protocol is regarding an ex and engagement and the ring... Help!

I would've presumed you would have spoken about it before getting back together tbh.

Just ask him what his thoughts are and if you're on the same page, that's great

There is no "protocol". If you are planning to marry, you're clearly engaged. Just move the ring.

Would it not be better to hold off on getting married until you've been together again a bit longer?

It's not a good sign that you've broken up once whilst engaged.

We've been back dating for 22 months now and pretty sure of eachother. Thanks

I was just wondering what others would do and your response has helped... Btw I know you didn't ask this but I'm putting my reply here for others to see... I broke the engagement not him and now we're back together our feelings have multiplied... The decision was right back then and we've both grown and changed 😊

Surely you just decide between yourselves that you're planning on getting married and put the ring back on the other hand? Or were you wanting him to propose again with a new ring?

That's one thing we didn't discuss and we are both unsure if there is a protocol to this sort of situation... My daughter thinks we should be engaged again but I'm not so sure... You're right I should ask him what he thinks 😊

Getting engaged is not about the ring, just like getting married is not about a wedding.

It's just a ring. Put it back on the other hand.

I don't expect another ring but wondered what was correct to do and was considering what family and friends would think 🤷🏻‍♀️

An engagement isn't a legal ceremony, it just means you have agreed to marry. You and your fiance have, so you're engaged, and can simply transfer the ring to your left hand. Or you could take it off, and ask him to do the down-on-one-knee thing, and he can slip it onto the appropriate finger if you prefer. There's no protocol.

Personally I would just move the ring back over but I don’t think there are rules about what you’re supposed to do. If you want to make an event of getting engaged again and he does as well then go for it. If you’d rather just move the ring and have it be like you never broke the engagement then do that.

Just move the ring. There isn’t a protocol - you got engaged with the intent to marry and still intend to marry. The ring is a symbol of intent. You just had a break in the middle.

Move the ring over and don't make a fuss about it. I very much doubt anyone would be bothered. I certainly wouldn't expect anyone to celebrate the fact you're engaged... again.

Why would you care what they think? It's none of their business.

You've decided you're getting married next year so you're basically engaged.

Bon, I was thinking I might start wearing my ring in my wedding finger again, now we're back to planning the wedding. What do you think?

There isn't a protocol because being engaged isn't a legal thing. And it really doesn't matter what you do.

If you've decided to get married, then you're already engaged. So you move your ring back on to that hand. Surely you don't expect another ring??!

You're right I should ask him what he thinks 😊

You think!?

I think you should ask him with a ring of his own and a proposal and then you put your ring back on too. Maybe a silly idea but if you broke it off it might be a nice gesture.

I would keep it low key and just transfer the ring back. If you received and returned engagement gifts last time it may be a good idea to call / email those people to let them know the wedding is back on, otherwise they will know when they receive the save the date card / invitation.

Thanks I really liked your suggestion and I think I'm going to use it 😉 we're late 50's no spring chickens so wanted some advice and I agree with a majority who said just move the ring across... However I really like this idea 💡 it will make him feel extra special too... Thank you 😊