Do you still fancy your DH?

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Been with DH for 6 years. From reading on here there’s so many women who no longer love or even like their DHs anymore. We’ve always considered ourselves lucky - very few arguments over the years. My sister in law asked me recently do we really fancy each other as much as we make out. I never really thought about it but I suppose we do? It’s something I’ve never had in previous relationships and I think it’s a big part of why we work. Anyone else feel like this about their DH?

9 years together and 3.5 years married. Fancy the arse off my husband and he still gives me the flutters! We have a 12 month old that keeps us busy so sex is less frequent than usual but we flirt all the time and are very tactile with one another with kisses, hugs, hand holding, bum squeezing etc etc as well as actually saying "god I fancy you, if only we were alone!" And such like.

No. I don’t fancy him, but I don’t really fancy anyone these days. I have low libido. Maybe due to peri menopause. I don’t really want to have sex but that goes for with anyone.
I do love him though he’s a great person and father and I enjoy spending time with him

I'm not trying to insinuate anything about your relationship because I hope your current happiness continues for far into the future, but you've only been together for 6 years. The vast vast majority of the unhappy marriage threads you will see on MN come from women married 15-20+ years. I'm certain that most of those women did not have their current issues 6 years in – in fact that often will say outright that the turning point came later.

Me and DH are very happy 11 years in, but I'm under no illusion what the years can do to a marriage when you combine stressors such as children, financial burdens and ageing parents. I don't think I've come across a couple only 6 years in who weren't still relatively loved up.

@Didimum yeah I suppose that’s true. DH’s family would often roll their eyes at us because they said from a few months in that the honeymoon period would wear off and tbh I just feel like we’ve got more and more loved up