Manipulation is when they blame you, for your reaction to their disrespect.

[thepinkcatthinks]

I saw this quote today and felt it really resonated to the way my ex this past year, has made me feel about my reaction to his cheating. I was made out to be abusive and awful.

I was thinking it would be really interesting to hear other people’s thoughts on manipulation?

My abusive ex would always blame other people for their own emotional reactions to his horrific behaviour. They were being moody or over reacting or acting crazy. He'd say 'it was a joke' when he'd said an offensive comment. He would never take any responsibility for how he made other people feel. It was always their fault if they couldn't 'take a joke' or 'lighten up'. Other people were too sensitive, took things the wrong way etc etc etc.

Funny how this phenomena of people not reacting how they should only ever happened around him.

Absolutely.
Mine only has a terrible temper with me 'because I infuriate him' . He also got angry with me as he was dumping me while pregnant I told him inwas heartbroken, he said he was heartbroken too, and I continued to talk about myself rather than empathizing with him about how sad he was that he was dumping me so that shows how I only think of myself . Lovely guy!

Oh my recent ex has blamed me on all of our relationship troubles but the thing is if he had stopped giving me the silent treatment it would not have triggered me to begin with.