I have been together with my girlfriend for almost 4 years. We love each other and have a small dog. During the past years, we have gotten to know each other on a deep level and seen each other grow. Many challenges have been overcome and we have a lot of fun together.
I moved halfway around the world, from Sydney to Madrid, to be able to be with her and this was my choice. I am happy that I decided to do this and we have shared some great years together. But ever since I moved, I have wished to someday come back to Sydney. I have communicated my longing to get back for years and it has at times been challenging and been a strain on our relationship. But now that we are approaching next year, I have been granted an opportunity to come back workwise and also bring her and our small dog. I have also secured a VISA for her so that she can build her own life and stand on her two feet when we get there. She doesn't have the same economic circumstances as I do, so I will pay for 90-95% of the total costs in relation to the move, but that's fine. As long as we are together.
Now the problem; she doesn't want to move. She hates the idea of being so far away and has become, as she expressed it, very emotional about being too far away, and is afraid of many things, like the logistics with the dog, the isolation of being far away, and the fact that she doesn't know the place. And yes, I have suggested going over and visiting Sydney many times, but since she is afraid of traveling, she would rather just get it done with if we were to move.
Now I am stuck in a very complicated situation. On one hand, I respect her fears and everything in between, but on the other, I also must not give up on my own dream of one day coming back. I have tried many times to push the deadline forward, but have reached a point where pushing it further is not possible due to me losing the visa if I go on like this.
I have just now said to her that I will go with or without you and that was hard for her to hear, but necessary for me to say. This sucks and I am afraid of losing her but also afraid of me regretting not pursuing my dream of living in Australia. Any ideas?