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Am I being a drama queen

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Dontknowanymore11 · 26/11/2023 20:44

I have never added myself to any group like this but I feel its necessary because I don't feel like i can speak to anyone.

Long story short everytime my partner wants sex on his command and I'm not in the mood because I am gueninly tired, he acts like a baby and I mean anytime I say babe not now which mind u isn't very often. From my knowledge we had a good sex life which is why I'm slyly hurt and confused.

We have been decorating and bare in mind I'm four and half months pregnant. About 11:30pm I go to settle down and my partner jumps in the bath, he gets out and wants to have sex, my eyes are literally hanging out of my head. So I said aw babe cmon he acted like a big kid as usual and wasn't very nice about it. He then left the room, I literally went out after him about 5mins later to see if he was okay and I caught him walking to porn ( I just can't unsee it my mind) I feel more hurt because I don't deprive him of sex, it's not even been 3 days since we last had sex and I thought our sex life was good. I left the house because i was so hurt just to come back and find that he didn't give a fuck about his pregnant girlfriend leaving but more so cared about finishing himself off. It might sound silly but if I never saw it I don't think it would of been that bad but it literally keeps playing over and over in my mind. Now I could understand if weeks or months had gone by or we live separately fair enuf but they way he did it and just carried on, I think was sooo wrong in my eyes!

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Howareu · 26/11/2023 20:50

You’re not a drama queen, you were just in shock and reacted. And I don’t blame you for reacting like that. Look after yourself 💐

Shoxfordian · 26/11/2023 20:50

He seems to only care about himself - do you have sex sometimes just because he'll be nasty if you don't?

It's a huge red flag- don't ignore it

afternoontea86 · 26/11/2023 20:51

I completely agree and you are definitely not being a drama queen. He is acting like a teenage boy and I also think it's definitely not healthy to be demanding sex from you. It was really hurtful of him to then go and watch porn. Being pregnant is so tiring and the last thing I would want after a long day is to have a childish man demanding sex from me!

Chouxpastryishard · 26/11/2023 20:52

What a literal wanker. If you weren’t pregnant I would say LTB.

Dontknowanymore11 · 26/11/2023 20:53

Thank you. I am actually really hurt and I just don't see him the same. Maybe that's because I'm hurt or whatever but I just can't get it out of my head!

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Dontknowanymore11 · 26/11/2023 20:56

Nooo defo not. I feel no type of way to say no to him! He acts like a baby thats on him. Just never expected that at all!! I enjoy our sex life and thought we were good but guess its not enough for him

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Dontknowanymore11 · 26/11/2023 20:57

Me too, I feel the same after this!

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Dontknowanymore11 · 26/11/2023 21:30

I have never added myself to any group like this but I feel its necessary because I don't feel like i can speak to anyone.

Long story short everytime my partner wants sex on his command and I'm not in the mood because I am gueninly tired, he acts like a baby and I mean anytime I say babe not now which mind u isn't very often. From my knowledge we had a good sex life which is why I'm slyly hurt and confused.

We have been decorating and bare in mind I'm four and half months pregnant. About 11:30pm I go to settle down and my partner jumps in the bath, he gets out and wants to have sex, my eyes are literally hanging out of my head. So I said aw babe cmon he acted like a big kid as usual and wasn't very nice about it. He then left the room, I literally went out after him about 5mins later to see if he was okay and I caught him walking to porn ( I just can't unsee it my mind) I feel more hurt because I don't deprive him of sex, it's not even been 3 days since we last had sex and I thought our sex life was good. I left the house because i was so hurt just to come back and find that he didn't give a fuck about his pregnant girlfriend leaving but more so cared about finishing himself off. It might sound silly but if I never saw it I don't think it would of been that bad but it literally keeps playing over and over in my mind. Now I could understand if weeks or months had gone by or we live separately fair enuf but they way he did it and just carried on, I think was sooo wrong in my eyes!

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