Can anyone spot any red flags

[westyorksb]

I want to start by saying I have improved massively over the years with my dating anxiety but I still sometimes get these little twinges of doubt that set in and I really am trying to ignore them and not to worry so much.

So to give full details

So I’ve had a total of 3 dates with a guy, each date roughly 5/7 days apart.

Date 1 - coffee which lasted 4 hours in end, he followed up with text within the hour asking for second date

Date 2 - evening drinks, until closing with goodnight kiss or 5, he followed up as soon as he was home thanking me and asking for another date

Date 3 - dinner, stayed till we were kicked out and again plenty of goodnight kisses, again followed up same evening asking to go out again etc

So we’ve had daily communication all the way through not constant bombarding of texts but regular throughout day, like yesterday we texted in morning he knew I was out for day with sister shopping so later in arvo he messaged to ask how day was going etc.

When I told him about somewhere nice I had lunch he said “we should go there one day”

We chat and convo isn’t difficult we seem to have a lot in common

I thought all this sounded ok and healthy but I friend has put me on edge as she thinks it’s strange we don’t text more and that we haven’t actually go a agreed day for our next date we just agreed to go out and now got me over thinking as she thinks it’s a sign he has plenty of options

Can anyone else spot any raging red flags 🚩

My husband didn't even call me after our first date for a week! He was busy - full on job and long days, plus two kids. He eventually did call and within six weeks asked me to marry him (which I'm sure would be a big red flag to many).
A couple texts a day and a request for meeting again seems absolutely fine at this early stage.

No red flags there.

Is your friend single? Wouldn't necessarily jump to jealousy but I might think that she'd struggle to meet someone who doesn't love bomb and future fake her.

Thank you for all, I have drastically cut communication down with friend we now only really talk to each other around once a month and see each other for dinner maybe 2 a year

I think today she got me anxious as when I was answering her questions she said it's strange that I haven't really spoken to him today, I explained that he had his son and we exchanged to messages this arvo after he had dropped his son home and that is the last I have heard from him, I didn't really think anything of this but she kind of implied it wasn't good because he's now not with his son so if he's not in contact with me he must be out or talking to someone else

I kind of figured he was going about his day and we would chat later but like I say she triggered my overthinking. I think i definitely need to not give her any details when she asks and just maintain everything is fine

I'd rather have a man with a busy, engaged life than some dud with nothing better to do than sit around on WhatsApp.

I don't see any red flags.

I'm not seeing any red flags so far. Sounds like a breath of fresh air to be able to get on with your life and not be glued to your phone texting all day.

When was your last date ? If it's more than a few days ago and he hasn't suggested when to meet next, maybe he is waiting for you to suggest something or get back to him about when you'd like to meet again?

I agree with others - no red flags apart from your friend. The less she knows, the less she can make you anxious. Why would she do that anyway? It's not very supportive - is she really a friend?

Keep the bloke , maybe think about ditching the friend.

Towerofsong actually he's just texted now to ask what days I'm free 🤣 we last saw each other on Thursday

actually he's just texted now to ask what days I'm free

Yay! Definitely no red flags then. x