I was seeing a lovely man from Oct last year to Sept this year. I've dated a lot and this man felt like one in a million. Respectful, kind, makes me laugh, a devoted dad, has his dd fri-mon every week (proper, regular contact with dc was a non negotiable for me when I was dating) and we had a physical connection like I've never experienced before.
In September he started making noises about wanting to move to where his dd lives, this coincided with her starting school and him losing the Monday contact. It's the next town, only a few miles away but because of traffic it usually takes over an hour to get there. I immediately said I didn't want a LDR and backed off. We ended up breaking up.
He says he wants to keep things going, but on the basis that we'll see each other when we can - which is never on the weekends and, as I have dc too, will probably end up being one evening a week. He used to live 5 mins away and we'd meet up for breakfast/lunch or hang out when my dc were in bed so saw each other 3ish times a week - it feels like once a week would be a massive drop.
Add to this that he's a poor phone communicator - rarely texts, prefers to call which I hate but only does that when he's driving somewhere and we can barely hear each other - and I feel like this is a recipe for disaster. How can you keep a relationship going on one meet up a week?
The thing keeping me hanging on for now is that I know that this type of connection is rare for me. I never feel attracted to anyone, ever, and it's very rare that I get along so well with someone. I'm 37 and have had a fair few relationships and dated a lot so I have plenty of experience to back that up. Really really don't know what to do.