Cheating Friend

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DH and I are friends with another couple. DH is in business with the husband of this couple.

The husband advised DH last week he was going on holiday yesterday as it’s been a stressful time at work lately. He only told his wife the morning he left, very last minute and she was upset he hadn’t asked her to go with him.

I’ve just found out this morning that he hasn’t gone away on his own; he’s gone with another woman (she’s a local beautician that I follow on socials). She has stupidly posted on her Instagram stories and it’s our friend’s villa, pool in the background, tagged the same location.

The wife doesn’t use social media so wouldn’t see it herself. What do I do? I feel horrible and like I need to let her know, but if I say anything it also affects my DH and his business. The idea of him working alongside someone so morally bankrupt also makes me feel a bit ill.

I really don’t want to get in the middle of this, but I can’t bring myself to lie to my friend as it makes me as bad as him in the liar stakes doesn’t it?

Well you are damned either way but if I was her I'd want to know.

If I were her I’d definitely want to know. Could you send her a screenshot of the other woman’s post anonymously?

Send her to screenshot. Tell her you think she needs to know, and that you are there to support her.

She’s your friend, I wouldn’t keep this from my friend. That would be a huge betrayal in my friendship group.

DON'T do it anonymously. It will drive her insane.

Anonymously definitely not an option, I’ve been on the receiving end of that when I was younger and it drove me crazy.

Before you do anything have you spoken to your husband???

Someone needs to tell her her hubby is a cheating POS.

If its going to have an impact on your DH business I would do it anonymously.

I'd screenshot the pics, print them off and post them to her, along with the girl's insta account and place of work etc.

You might find anonymous harsh but letting her be ignorant while others can see what's on socials in nothing short of cruel.

I do hope your DH has the balls to tell this excuse for a man what a bell end he's being.

Show her the objective facts as you've presented them here. Show her the SM images. Don't say to her that you think her H is cheating on her. Tell her that you noticed these images and you felt that she ought to see them too.

I would not be able to keep this a secret. Fuck that guy. I would ring your friend and tell her you need to see her ASAP. Tell her in person.

Flip.

Given your DH business is so entangled with him, I’d print off the screenshots and send them to her anonymously.

It’s not like a random tip off - she can see it on social so she’s not going to be driving herself crazy wondering who is telling her or what their motivation might be.

You have to be able to pull off a poker face though. If you can’t, you’ll have to discuss with your DH, which is going to create some agro if this guy is an important client,

What Christmasspud said

remove all terms just share the facts

And ideally face to face or on a call

Have you got any mutual friends willing to say something ?
They could use the guise of 'hey isn't that your villa? Are you renting it out now?'