He called me a c*** again

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I don't really know where to start, but I'm feeling really upset and emotional right now. I'm married for 12 years with three young children - husband is poorly at the moment so struggling with lack of sleep / pain.
Tonight I tried to discuss Christmas presents for the children, but he's told me that I'm ridiculous and to F off and that I'm a c*. He's told me this before - the night before I was due a C-section with our third.
I just feel so disrespected and know that if I ever heard anyone speak to our daughter or sons this way I'd tell them exactly want to do!
I've been off work with menopausal issues and am now on medication and am back at work - but it's becoming clear he doesn't support me. We argue about money, sex and housework.
Advice and options are very welcome!

Again?

What is there to say other than leave, you can't wave a magic wand and it stops, you can say don't say it will that make a difference, but what suggestions do you really think people can come up with?

There isnt any advice other than leave him. Sorry.

What would you advise a friend or someone that you loved to do in this situation? I'd bet you'd say they deserve better and you should make steps to leave, because you don't deserve to be talked to like that; no one does. It is of course not as easy as just leaving, but please do think long and hard about it.

He has no respect for you and probably doesn't care about you either. I couldn't be with a man like that.

The only advice I can give is the advice I would give to anyone in this situation. It's time to stop and think how much longer you want to put up with being verbally abused by a man who you have regular fights with. This isn't a man you want to grow old with. How many more years of your life do you want to waste on him

He sounds horrible . I'm not sure what you want people to say . Most people wouldn't be with someone like this.

Ok, you’ve had an argument and he’s called you a nasty name. Let’s be realistically, not very many people are going to leave after that.

How is everything generally? Has he just said this because he sick and in a terrible mood? It doesn’t make it acceptable and you should make that clear to him, hopefully e apologises.

The end of your post makes me feel that perhaps you’re unhappy overall with your marriage and not just this one name calling episode (I saw he’s called you that before, so twice in your marriage), is that correct? Because that’s a bigger issue.

You know what people are going to say. Only you can decide what level of disrespect you will accept. If this is ok for you and you think it’s ok for your kids to know and see that their mother is treated like shit (because they will) then by all means stay. Otherwise sort your life out! It’s the only life you have!!! Don’t fuck it up or allow someone else to! You have choices.

you have a responsibility to try and fix this marriage…
By fix it, I mean end it. Walk away, not before jabbing a screwdriver through the upholstery of his car and entering his mobile number into ever payday loan and insurance comparison website that exists.

Give yourself the advice you'd give your daughter. This isn't the end of his abusive behaviour. It's the beginning. If you stay she will see this behaviour modelled as normal. This will become acceptable to her as well as traumatising. There is life after divorce. A tough event to go through but the rest of your life will not be shadowed by him

@Itsmehi222 yeah, all the info you asked is right there in the OP. The man called her a cunt at caesarian time, they fight about various things, he does not support her. The kids do not need to keep being exposed to such a toxic house.
The sole point of a relationship is that it's meant to enhance your life and be fun. This man made vows to honour and cherish the OP and he's failed.

Any poster is free to reply to any comment, so nah, you don't get to shh anyone. There is no context at all need d for a man calling his wife a cunt, or acceptable reasons to argue a lot.