The last few weeks me and my boyfriend have been in a bad place because of his inappropriate behaviour. He has told every member of his family about our troubles - obviously not telling them what he’s done but just that we are in a bad place.
This evening he came over to talk (we spoke for hours) and one of the things I said was that if we even consider continuing this relationship he needs to stop involving family. It makes me uncomfortable to know that everyone knows we are having issues. Especially if we sort things out and I then have to go and see these people and they know we’ve had problems.
I asked him to go back to his flat tonight so he can spend the night alone and think about all the crap he’s put me through. So he gets up to go, then mentions that he’s not staying at his flat but has been invited to his brothers as they know he’s on his own tonight. He actually was texting them just before he left mine so had only just accepted their invitation to go over.
He doesn’t get why I’m annoyed by it! What will happen now is his brothers and his wife will chat with him all night about our relationship and try and get all the gossip. He’s not even close to his brother and usually sees him once or twice a year, even though they live 20 mins away.
I just feel like everything we’ve spoken about for the last few hours has fallen on deaf ears and he has no idea why I’m upset. Before he told me he was going there I actually believed he’d listened to what I was asking of him as he said all the right things and agreed on the family thing.
AIBU to be annoyed? My main grievance is that he’s not even close to these people, and they will just be wanting all the details on why we are arguing to entertain them on a Saturday night.