Staying with ex partner, issues with dog….

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My house is being renovated and my ex partner offered to let me, my dog and our DC stay with him while it’s being done.

He’s very house proud and highly strung which is one of the reasons we broke up.

He has said my dog needs to stay in the kitchen, fine. Yesterday he left for work and left the kitchen door open. She did a small wee in his hall and upstairs which I found when I got back later that day.

I was really worried he’d freak out so cleaned it up and didn’t say anything. He found the wet patch were if cleaned and as expected freaked out. Mainly because I hadn’t apologised and offered to get a rug doctor. I pointed out he’d left the kitchen door open and I had done my best to clean it.

I ended up leaving with DC To stay at my mums. The whole thing is just the final straw. Am I being awful?

He’s your ex for a reason so maybe it wasn’t going to work anyway.
I’m a dog lover but I’d be mightily pissed off if a visitors dog weed on my carpets. If it was that important to him he should have made sure the dog was locked in the kitchen.
you’re better off at your mum’s

How long had you left the dog home alone? If it was much more than four hours you're at fault.

Yes you are a bit
Hes opened his house to you and yours .
I wouldn’t be happy having a badly trained dog do it’s business all over my home.
Agree he should have closed the kitchen door , but your dog shouldn’t have …..

Personally I would have got the carpets properly cleaned for him and apologised

How long did you leave the dog for? Maybe the dog should've gone to your Mum's originally?

I can see his point to be honest.

You shouldn't have taken up his offer as you knew he was houseproud and highly strung. An accident waitingto happen! Far better solution to stay at your Mum's, but l would offer to pay to have his carpets cleaned as a gesture of goodwill as the wee suggest your dog was left alone too long.

Thanks all, I’ve just apologised and offered to get the carpet cleaned.

We can’t all stay at my mums unfortunately so it’s either at ex’s or a building site….

Think of it as if he were a friend or relative who had kindly offered to let you stay. You wouldn’t be arguing that it was their fault your dog toileted inside, and I’m sure the first thing you’d say to a friend or relative would be to own up immediately and say “I’m so sorry, I’ll pay for a professional clean” rather than try to clean it yourself and then keep quiet until the stain was noticed. You need to see this situation in the same way: just because he’s your ex and you have that level of familiarity doesn’t mean you treat the situation differently.

Perhaps if you acknowledge this to him it will help smooth things over.