House renno issues

[Smith90]

Hi all!
year 3 of house renno and we still have a number of things to do, it’s liveable but not comfortable and I feel embarrassed by it.
at first my husband was all hands on deck, we both were…. Then I fell pregnant and since having our little one ( 2 years ago) it’s almost stopped completely!
I have raised this several times and we argue about it all the time, my issue is my husband won’t allow anybody else to work on it but also does nothing himself, gets really annoyed if I arrange something or book someone in or work on it myself…. He’s a perfectionist.
however it’s really getting me down as now he’s loads of hobby’s he has time for but not the house, he’s totally lost interest and says he doesn’t mind it the way it is!!
my family have said the only way around it is to get everyone in when he’s away and just finish it and let him have a strop about it afterwards but at least it will be done.
just for context other than this problem my husband is wonderful, loving a great father etc but this he’s extremely stubborn about this and no matter how many discussions nothing changes.
I don’t want to have to upset or stress him but it may be the only way, I’d love to know peoples thoughts, what would you do?? I want a nice home for our little family and to stop the constant worry of it.

To be honest I've never really understand the whole leaving DIY to the man in a relationship - I'd imagine after working all week he wants some down time with his hobbies and starting a DIY job is the last thing he needs. I say this as a full time working single mum of 3 including 2 year old twins who has to do all my own DIY mostly as I can't afford to get trades in. So I know when it gets to the weekend that renovation job which has been on my list forever is going to get put off another week! What is it that needs doing? Decorating etc why cant you have a go?

I think I’d give him an ultimatum, either he lets you get people in to do the jobs, or you sell the house as is, and buy one that doesn’t need work.

I get the losing interest, we’ve done renos and they are draining. Personally, in your situation I’d sell up (if that’s an option) and move somewhere that already done. Then you have time to enjoy LO without all the stress!

I think I'm with your family.

After all, you're the one spending most time at home, aren't you? So it affects you most, being stuck in the middle of it.

While he's (consciously or unconsciously) avoiding the home with work and hobbies.

Get it done. Let him strop.

Op says he gets pissy if she does it.

Hi thanks for your reply.
I totally get that too, and together we’ve done most of it ourselves together, when I suggest I do something myself he says just leave it il do it but never does…. I don’t mind getting stuck in, if he did t freak out over it 😅

Thankyou for your reply!!
I think it will end up being this way, I may try one last chat and then go all in!!

Hi thanks for the reply! Never thought of this idea!! The renno is totally draining we’ve been on it so long it’s just horrible now! With a little one it’s so hard to keep motivated on weekends etc!! Il suggest this though, great idea!!