We’ve been dating for 2 and 1/2 years. He comes over for dinner a couple of times a week but he seems to feel entitled about it. When he takes me to eat which is twice a month he usually takes me to pubs for hamburgers. He never brings anything when he comes to dinner even when I specifically suggest that he bring something. The other day I made a holiday dinner and said if he likes cherry pie could he pick one up and he said anything you pick is fine so I got the pie . The reason this is causing me resentment is because he said it costs him $8 each time to drive the 20 minutes to my house so he shouldn’t have to bring anything and that he takes me out to eat. I used to pay for our meals out but I recently stopped because I felt I was being taken advantage of.
When I point out that his behaviors are hurtful he just makes excuses and restates his point for example “im spending $8 to drive to your house ANd I have to bring groceries? I’d rather just stay home then.” Or “let’s not worry about this right now” He seems so entitled. I cut my finger the other day cooking and he was oblivious to it. There was blood all over the hand towel and then he said “let’s go take a shower together”. There was blood all over his hand when he went to turn on the shower. When I asked him about it the other day he said he didn’t know I had cut my finger. I need to value myself more. It’s always so hard for me to end relationships.