I was talking to someone about my relationship with DP recently and they said it sounded toxic... it is difficult because he isn't always like this but behaviour has included:
- Subtly criticising what I wear, occasionally saying its unflattering or slightly laughing at it
- Saying harsh things but then denying he's said them or saying I'm overreacting
- Not reacting/being sympathetic when I've hurt myself or saying I'm making too much of it when I'm ill
- Criticising what I do around the house, how I do certain domestic things, nothing seems good enough, food cooked in the wrong ways, kitchen cleaned in wrong way (this will all be done subtly)
- Switching off completely when I talk about my work, not seeming pleased when good things happen for me at work
- As above for talking about my friends
- Occasionally calling me names or swearing at me during arguments
- Sometimes not seeming to care if I get really upset, being very detached when I get emotional
- Saying I am not sporty/fit enough
- Blowing hot and cold - sometimes saying he's not sure of his feelings for me, not sure if he's attracted to me
- A general feeling he doesn't like me
Feel a bit shaky typing all that. There is probably more but I can't think of it all now.