Can I really recommend relationship therapy

[Ivelookedatlovefrombothsidesnow]

Hi 👋
a short while ago DH and had a series of arguments that followed the same pattern that they have throughout the past decade.

We both concluded that the next steps were to either divorce but that wouldn’t exactly be an easy path with DD. Or to seek a professional to help us. I was feeling so sad and hopeless but after only a month or so of weekly sessions and homework, I feel so hopeful and happy in my relationship with DH.

I just thought I’d put this here because I’ve often come on to this board to seek support and it’s been a real revelation to me.

Did your DH willingly engage with the therapy and does he feel similarly to be you, that it's helped turn things around?

I really feel sometimes that DH and I could use some help. I feel like there are a few issues that tend to be the underlying cause of all the disagreements we have. And I'd rather seek help as a positive step rather than as a last resort. Can I ask how you went about choosing a therapist?

Yes he engaged happily. He and I have had therapy individually over the years so we both trust the process.

I asked DH to find someone (one of our repeating arguments is that he’s an unwilling passenger in the life that I’m steering and I was infuriated by his passivity!) and luckily the first one he found was great.

Yes, he feels it’s turned things around. It’s still baby steps and we are aware we have work to do to change our argument style and to listen to each other properly with empathy.