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Unhappy in relationship - 10 month old

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Mumtobe888 · 22/11/2023 09:46

Hello,

Just after some advice really as I’m feeling completely defeated.

My son is 10 months old now, the problems with my partner started when I was pregnant (I got pregnant 2 months from knowing him). We would argue all the time when I was pregnant, I had to have mental health help during that time and I really struggled with the new relationship.

Since my son was born things did improve but I’m just so unhappy. I feel like I do everything by myself, I’ve returned to work part time and that’s the only time I get to myself.

he hasn’t helped in the night since our son was 2 weeks old and has slept on the sofa ever since. He baths him once a week on a Sunday night (I still have to run the bath, change him and give him a bottle). I just feel so run down and whenever I mention this to him he just says he does help and he works. I know that I’m unhappy and I have been for a long time. When I have mentioned splitting before he has said he’ll call the police and I’m not taking his son away from him.

we rent together currently, I have found out he’s had Baylift letters going to his mums house for debts he hasn’t paid but he hasn’t told me this.

I just feel so lost in myself, I watch videos of other people in relationships and wish I had that.

im not sure how I’ll cope finically on my own and I’m scared he’ll have my son taken away from me.

has anyone else been in this situation before and did you cope? What help did you get?

OP posts:
Brightandbreezey · 18/12/2023 21:39

Hi, sorry no one responded to you. I’m also really sorry you’re going through this.
why do you think he will have your son taken away from you? They don’t take children away from parents without good reason! And leaving a partner is not a good reason.
It really doesn’t sound like your partner is doing his fair share at all and ultimately if you’re not happy together it would be best to go your separate ways. It will be better for your DC as well, instead of growing up in an unhappy home.
Are you able to get your own place at all? Have you any family around that can help?

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