Neighbours Relationship problems

[sr1986]

Hi,
im after some advise on what day to my neighbour!! She’s thinking of leaving her husband and every time I see her she goes on and on about him how she’s not happy etc.
my problem is I really don’t know what to say to her!! I’m rubbish in these situations, I feel like she’s talking to me for advise but I can’t give her any, it’s up to her what she wants to do, obviously I listen to what she has to say but I’m just in a awkward position what do I say to her!!!

"Oh dear, that sounds so difficult. What do you plan to do?"

Depends how involved you want to get. I can see it backfiring on you spectacularly if you encourage her to leave and they have a rapprochement. Personally, I would shut her constant complaining down and keep her at arms length.

I wouldn't get involved, steer clear but let her vent.

I think that’s what I’m going to do, but it’s just what to say when she vents! All I’ve said to her is you need to be happy and it’s only you who can decide what you want

"For fucks sake Annie. Either shit or get off the pan. I get it, you don't like him. But this conversation bores the bones off me. If youre really miserable, do something about it. But can you stop banging on about it cause its giving my arse a sore head!"

Obviously you know both of them so being involved you will end up in the middle of the sorry saga, I personally would back off because you don't want to end up in the middle of a war zone

I think if it was me I would just say;

I'm sorry things are difficult for you but it's really not my place to get involved. There are some decisions only you can make. I really hope things get better for you

thanks all

Does she actually ask your advice? Some people just want a listening ear to get things off their chest, and it's fine to not offer advice and just listen. Just carry on making the appropriate sympathetic comments to her situation.

Or does she just moan at you about the husband that she's not actually going to leave? Yes, some people really are like this!