MyBabyAndMeWentOutLateSaturdayNight ·
20/11/2023 18:58
My body confidence has really plummeted of late.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We're both older with adult/late teenage children. And everything is great. In fact, the only thing that is wrong with our relationship is my body confidence.
I know all the advice - wear something sexy that you feel comfortable in; fake it till you make it; a decent man won't care; talk to him about it...
But it's not just about him. It's about me too and how I feel.
If I wore something 'sexy' that I felt comfortable in to hide myself, I'd just be reminded that that was why I was doing it. He would also know why I was doing it.
I was faking the confidence but it's just abandoned me. I can't do it. I'm not confident. I know I don't look attractive naked and I can't pretend that I do anymore.
A decent man won't care? They do. Even decent men have preferences - likes and dislikes. They might not be openly critical but it's there in what they don't just what they do. If he avoids touching certain body or just never compliments those body parts or never says anything admiringly or appreciatively, then it's because he doesn't find it/them attractive.
I dont want to talk to him.about it. I don't want him to admit to me that he finds x, y or z unattractive. I don't want him to lie and pretend that he does. I'm not an idiot or a child.
I'm really struggling with it tbh.