We have been unhappy for years now. We've tried lots of different things, open communication, at home counselling, making an effort with dates etc. but I just feel so miserable within our relationship. I had a bit of a breakdown earlier in the year and overhauled my whole life, my health, my career, my social life but I've realised this is not what I want anymore. We don't have any fun, I dread when he comes home but am so happy alone at home with the kids. He is very low and is a people pleaser, constantly trying to make everyone else happy but diminishing himself and getting angry and resentful with everyone if it doesn't turn out how he'd like. When I told him I was unhappy and think it's the end of the road he was devastated and said he would die if he didn't have me and the kids. This is sensitive as my dad committed suicide a few years after my mom left him. I don't want the same for my kids.
I just don't know how to move forward protecting his mental health. I've agreed to counselling if only to help us through the separation and help him work through it. But already it's agony living alongside each other in this state. Any advice on others who've got through this and helped their husband through it would be great. I want above all else to do this together and understanding each other especially for our children. Thanks in advance