dont want dh back !

[angiebaby78]

how do iexplain to dh that iam fine without him and dont really want him home. he has gone to sort out his dd and i was relieved when he went. now hes talking about coming home like nothings happened but i am happy withouthim . Hopw do i break the news gently? do i wait till he comes back or do i tell him on the phone ( is that just cowardly?) I really am stuck , any ideas??

How long has he been away? Did you have a row before he left?

Did he leave and go somewhere else?
Not been keeping up.

Just tell him. Phone, face to face, whatever. I think if he left then he shouldn't expect any polite way of telling him!

you want to break up your marriage over the phone?!
Think you should wait until you can do it face to face

if you have really thought about it, tell him how you feel, lifes too short,you obviously have your reasons

No row as such just general turned into something i dont like, He gambles all our money away when i confront him he goes home to mummy for a bit!! Not really been working for a while, on the few occasions that he is here we dont talk and sleep back to back. Its turned into resentment now and i dont feel that its good for the dcs. Not quite sure how he will react, he knows its not working but i think hes in denial not willing to face that it is over. I dont love him anymore. I know this cause when he comes home i wait for the feeling of relief or any feeling but nothing happens, hes just kinda there !!

is the house in both your names?
do you think he will agree to leave if you ask him to?

no house in my name, not sure if hell go without a row ! got dd2 to consider ( his ) his mum lives 200 miles away thats where he would go. So contact would be an issue.

has he paid anything towards the mortgage? or have you charged him rent (because this might cause issues with terms of notice served if he decides to be difficult as he will effectively have been a tennant)?

no everything is paid for by me !!rhe lanlord knows hes here but hes never been on the tenancy

he will have to move a long way then...would he not get somewhere closer so he would be near to his dd,
hope you dont get too much hassle from him,you can expect him not to be very happy of course,these things are never easy are they, but you must be true to yourself whilst thinking of your dc too