I would like advice/ input from the ladies and if their are men. But I have been in my current relationship for 2 years. In these 2 years I have been having to bring up to my boyfriend how it upsets me that he will watch me cook and clean( not literally) or not talking to me a certain way. Both things we still have an issue with. I'm supposed to take what he says no matter what it is not as disrespect bc he love me.I will cook bring him his plate and he will fall asleep and I'm expected to wake him up and tell him to clean.
They're times he cleans the kitchen but more often than not it's me. And not every time is he asleep. He may be on the game or watching tv. We got into an argument because 2 days after me saying I shouldn't have to ask for simple things he feel asleep last night and again I'm doing the dishes.
People fall asleep I get up but that's has been the response for a while. And I'm not ok with it be majority of the time I tired but I still get up to make sure things are done. This is not just about the kitchen. Since being in a relationship with him I've changed a tire while he stayed home, I've put oil in my car after asking him to for a month etc.
I don't feel like I should have to remind him of these things. But i like being upset and walking around mad all day bc I didn't take that extra step. I love my boyfriend but I feel as though he wants me to be like his mom. Your mom can remind you of things but me? I don't get it anything he needs rather he says it or not im there trying to make things easier for him. But I have to remind him of the things he may forget.
With all the things I do throughout the day I now have to add that to the list. I don't ask him for much so I would just like for those things to be done. So now after talking like always I feel stupid because all I had to do was ask. When I still don't feel like I have to. All week he has been here and not lift a finger I'm tired and I shouldn't have to say that.