Any experience of a new relationship where he has no DC but you have 3?

[ML2314]

Exactly that really, I have been separated from husband for nearly a year now, and met a really great man who I can see potential as a serious relationship, the only thing that worries me is that having three DC and him having none that it could cause issues, even though he tells me he feels it is absolutely not an issue for him. Has anyone had any positive experiences of this kind of relationship working out?

I don't have 3, I have 2. He has none. I've known him as a friend since we were 16 and always worried that me having kids could be an issue as he's always been known as the party boy, the joker, always looking for the next laugh etc..... whereas I'm the quiet introvert who loves my home comforts, enjoys being at home with the kids or doing things as a family. I was concerned how his lifestyle would slot into mine with the kids and no amount of reassurance from him made me feel better. Time did though. We are now 32 and 33, together 5 years and his life revolves around this family unit (his choice). When he tells me family life is what he needed and wanted i believe him.

Is there anything in particular that you are worried about? I think my biggest worry with him not having kids was if he would want his own some day so that's a convo we had and cleared up pretty early on

thank you for this! I’m so glad it worked out for you!
I think my fear isn’t that he may want children as we have discussed this, I think I realise how hard it is as a single mum and all of the responsibilities/housework/mental load and the fact that kids are generally hard work (I have them 90% of the time) and I worry that if he came into my life around the children (he has met them but only briefly and was not introduced as my partner yet) that it would be too much for someone who doesn’t fully know what it means to be a part of a family household. He has been adamant that he wants to be with me and a part of everything that comes with that, so I may be over thinking, but I think I just worry because I know how hard it can be!

Not me no I have 4 but would much rather date a man with no kids so that’s what I would be looking for. My mum met my dad when she had 3 kids and he had none

I met my partner 8 years ago. I has 3 kids, 8,10 and 12. He didn't have any. Took things slow, he's never parented them, I did that whilst he got to know them. He loves them to bits and they love him.

These are so reassuring thank you!