Men

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After two relationships, where both men seemed great then ended up lying and cheating, and now swiping on endless men looking for casual or hook ups on dating sites, I am not sure I am cut out for ‘men.’

My father and best friend are great men but that’s it - all the other men I’ve known have been atrocious. Countless married men have come onto me, especially in the workplace, and I’ve lived abroad and I’ve not experienced any difference. The amount of men who will abuse, take advantage and neg you - just wow. How women have put up with men, I have no idea.

Feeling sad as I would have liked to have met someone but it’s just not going to happen. I don’t put up with shit.

Good for you for not putting up with shit.

There are a lot of bad 'uns out there, but there a lot of perfectly decent men as well. Your Dad and best friend aren't the only men in the world who are decent!

The issues is, if you're willing to risk meeting some of the arses there are out there. I completely understand why people say they aren't that bothered and would rather spare themselves the grief and wasted emotional energy.

On the other hand, if you'd like to be in a relationship, it doesn't hurt to keep your mind open to it.

I’ve often thought that it would be easier having a relationship and living with another woman. I wish I was a lesbian!

I do hear you OP. I had a very easy long term relationship with my DS dad which was drama and stress free.

Since I’ve been single, all I seem to attract is wronguns looking for hook ups or men wanting a replacement wife to wipe their arse.

Im so lucky I have a brilliant group of girl friends but I think we will be better off like the golden girls all living in a big house together rather than meeting men.

Sometimes it does you good to just forget about meeting someone and focus on other stuff. I am single and although l keep an open mind to meeting someone l don't actively look and l don't miss it, and the longer l am by myself the less desire l have to meet someone. You can still live a lovely way of life without having a partner.