Husband behaviour again !

[MariaL40]

This is a follow on thread from yesterday. So husband did take our son to his appointment and when. I asked him last night why he didn’t answer my messages he said because he didn’t want to answer any of my questions about the appointment as our son may need a hearing aid. Then to make things worse he made a big deal of saying the dinner was shit not cooked properly and the older boys are now repeating what he’s saying to me! I’m literally reaching the end of my tether with his behaviour

How can you be helped into leaving your abuser?.

I’ve read previously that you are based overseas, what are women’s legal rights like in that country?.

Your sons are copying their father to avoid his wrath/being targeted by him and in doing so he is also teaching them further damaging lessons about relationships. They could well grow up to become carbon copies of their father particularly if they remain under his influence. Calling you names is completely unacceptable. The only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none.

I would need to report it to the police but I don’t feel strong enough to do that yet.

You don't need to report him to the police straight away. You can leave and report anything criminal at a later date when you feel ready. IF you feel ready.

Just make sure that when you do leave you make it clear to your sons that we do not tolerate bullies, we just get away from them as fast as we can.

The faster you go the better because if your sons see him treat you this way and get used to mimicing it...then you're going to be dealing with that shit from them as teenagers and the cycle of abuse will continue. There really isn't time to waste.

The boys will also think that’s how to treat women and their wives will suffer the same fate