All cos I don't want to know about his ex

[Bunn23]

Partner has started to tell me something about his ex's boyfriend, I stopped him and said I don't want to know.
He said that I'm out of order, I talk about my life and my family and in future to not talk about my family and he won't talk about his.
I said that I dont want to know about his ex . Lots happened but one example , she seen us, cried and he spent ages apologising to his adult children and her for walking down the street with me and saying how wrong he was for doing this. We had been together 2 years at this point and they had been split up longer.
At times her feelings, came before mine and so I don't want to know about her life, I'm sure she doesn't want me to know.
He's ended up going to his daughters house and said that I'm out of order, should give him list of stuff can talk about and not really took in what I've said about my feelings.
I just feel dismissed, he's said it wasn't about his ex but about her boyfriend....same thing.
Doubting self now and thinking am I being arsey .

He's said he's not wasting his battery on his phone messaging me anymore as can't agree, hasn't eaten today, is on a cold sofa at daughters ...."he deserves more "

Ugh how can you put up with such a big bloody man baby?

Tell him to stay where he is

I'd have his stuff bagged up and ready to go. Life's too short to put up with that immature shit.

Even if you'd spoken to him in a 'short' tone about not wanting to know his ex's didoes his reaction and stomping out is OTT. A mature person would have said "I hear what you're saying, but next time please don't use a 'tone of voice'.

A few weeks ago he told me that the exs boyfriend cooks....I was talking about being sick of working and coming in doing tea and he dropped that.
I asked why did he say this and his reply was his kids had told him.
Yeah he could have addressed it differently...I hear what ur saying but ....
I feel like I'm done, I don't want to play games or be on eggshells.

look up "karpmans drama triangle".

I've read all your updates OP, and the more you said the more I'm convinced that this is your chance to get rid of a twat.

Seconded

What a plonker.

@Bunn23

Has he come back to collect his stuff? If not, to reduce the time he's in your home, why not put all his stuff in bin bags at the door ready for him/his children to collect? Don't forget to change your locks (or at least the lock barrels) so he can't let himself back in, especially in your absence. 🌹

Seriously, bag his stuff up and tell him to fuck off.

OP, I started the thread thinking that your refusing to listen about his ex was petty and not very healthy- a relationship flourishes on open communication about whatever is on each other's minds.... not declaring subjects taboo - that just forces stuff underground.

However, all your other info suggests your partner is a huge problem. Your partner sounds like a child- his 'victim' rhetoric about being on a cold couch is pathetic and attempt to guilt and control you, as his is his overreaction and shifting of blame that you 'made him homeless'. His apologies for walking down the street with you are bizarre and unhealthy. His bringing up his ex's partner's cooking in the context of being unhappy with what you made is incredibly immature, entitled, undermining etc..... and your feeling of walking on eggshells is always always a red flag,

Get out... get out!!!! He sounds like a nightmare.

I agree with financialcareerstuff I started thinking maybe you had been unreasonably aggressive with him but if he is using the fact that the ex’s partner cooks to stop you moaning about being too tired to cook then he is a twat. Enjoy your life without him!