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Husband behaviour

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MariaL40 · 17/11/2023 13:29

I just need to vent. I’m so furious with my husband!
After a 2 month wait our 7 year old finally got an appointment with his ENT doctor as he is having ongoing problems with his ears.
Anyway my husband said he would take him to his appointment (after me having to ask him) as I’ve had a lot of time off work due to our son being ill. Anyway, I was at work and I get a text from my husband telling me to phone him urgently which I did and he started effing and blinding at me down the phone as he’d forgotten to take the payment card for the appointment even though he knew he would need it saying it was my fault!!!!! It’s always in my car and I assumed he’d taken it this morning as he’s known for ages about the appointment!!!
anywau he says he’s not taking our son to the appointment as he doesn’t have the money to pay! I was left shocked by his outburst and when I tried to get in touch with him about it he replied I couldn’t take him I couldn’t pay !!!(i don’t know if he’s playing games with me or if he really didn’t take him) I phoned to doctors office to find out if the doctor had seen my son but they’re closed this afternoon. I have no idea if he was seen or not. I’m not in the uk btw

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DustyLee123 · 17/11/2023 13:34

Honestly, you need to do these important things yourself if you want them doing. I learned that years ago.

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MariaL40 · 17/11/2023 13:38

Sometimes I can’t ! Is it too much to ask that a father takes his own child to a medical appointment?

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DustyLee123 · 17/11/2023 13:39

Yes, apparently

Ianz · 17/11/2023 13:40

And the award to the best dad and partner of the year goes to ...That's some nasty, sick behaviour in there. This is about a poor boy who needs to see a doctor, there's no excuse whatsoever!

Hbosh · 17/11/2023 13:42

DustyLee123 · 17/11/2023 13:34

Honestly, you need to do these important things yourself if you want them doing. I learned that years ago.

Way to enforce gender roles and the complete exhaustion of all mothers everywhere.
It's not unreasonable to expect a dad to do more than the bare minimum.

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MariaL40 · 17/11/2023 13:42

Yes totally and as I said I have no idea if he was seen or not as he won’t answer my text

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Hbosh · 17/11/2023 13:44

@MariaL40
You're absolutely right to be angry.
He's not just your child. Your husband needs to grow up and take some responsibility.
I'd be livid if this was my husband.

In these situations I always shove the responsibility back into their lap. You didn't go to the appointment? Fine, you get to make a new one. It's urgent? Fine, you can call around and see if anyone has an opening soon.
Not your fault, not your problem.
And if your husband has trouble with that, maybe he shouldn't have the right to call himself a husband or a father.

ThereIbledit · 17/11/2023 13:45

In what world in 2023 does anybody only have one card that they can pay on, shared with their partner?

outdooryone · 22/11/2023 14:34

Can one of you not pay over the phone?
And why don't you have more than one card to pay things between you?

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