Heartbroken !! Please guide me !

[Advice444]

Hello,

I am going through a breakup , very very early in and really struggling. Please can I have some tips and advice for how to get through this ?

Also, I'm bracing myself for criticism here but the past two days I can't stop myself from reaching out to him. Nothing excessive but messages are read and ignored by him which makes me feel awful and worthless, unworthy of a response. How can I stop reaching out !

Ans any advice in general on how to get over a proper broken heart ? :(

Heartbreak is horrible but the only thing to get over it is time. Keep as busy as you can, see lots of friends, do hobbies etc and do not message him.Take him out your contacts, delete all texts etc from him so you don't keep looking at them and remind yourself of all the times he was a twat to you.

You WILL be ok and you'll get over him, time is all that is needed.

Hugs to you OP

Thanks, just really struggling. I don't have any hobbies and I don't know how to spend my time other than the usual mum duties of course. I don't have the energy or motivation to do anything other than mum stuff.
I just feel really low and pining for him. Constantly thinking of him and missing him.

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. It's understandable. Break-ups can be devastating. .
Don't be too hard on yourself. You're emotional and still needing time to figure everything out. Try not to contact him, but don't beat yourself up over it if you mess up.
You'll get there eventually.

Write messages in a "notes" app or something instead, then sleep on whether you actually want to send it.

You won't always feel like this.

Don’t send the messages as he’s not goi g to reply. I actually sent them to my own number. So I got my feelings out but he didn’t get them. He kind to yourself and remember he’s a dick!

@Advice444 what you are feeling is perfectly normal, but you do know that you are NOT worthless and you will get through this.
Like PP said it will take time, but each day will be better than the day before.
what I found helped me was exercise and visualising what I wanted to look like in the summer, how I wanted to feel, and I began taking steps to achieve this

. By putting my energy into myself..l began to feel much better about everything, I reconnected with friends, I applied for and got a promotion at work, and all from taking time out for me. You will get through this.

Try to find some of the NC posts on here and get some support from others in the same situation.

Oh sending love - heartbreak is the absolute worst - I am in the same place, but I do know that I got lots of good advice on here - sending so much love xxx

Drink wine with your friends.

Slag him off.

Turn phone off.

Remember his loss.......