Why am I so unpopular?

[thinkitsme]

Just that really. I retired from work after being in the same place of work for ages if I don't contact people they don't contact me.
I don't really have any old friends one who I was close to is holding me at arms length and it's almost a year since I saw her.
I used to see and talk to my sister a lot but she's really involved with her partner and his family so I hardly see her now even though she lives a 10 minute walk away.
I am lucky that I have a nice husband and children .
I ask about people I try to be kind but I wonder if I'm just super dull( this is possible are you asleep yet reading this?)
I think I'm just unappealing generally I definitely am not attractive to look at
I think I need some hobbies to make with engage with others but don't know where to start.

Thank-you all so much these messages have made me feel much more positive!!
And Thank-you for all the ideas!
Also I think I'm going to get another dog - our lovely dog was put to sleep earlier this year and I think I really miss her company!!

OP definitely! Getting a dog suddenly means everyone says good morning etc. Always training classes etc to meet new people too. Good luck.

I'm in the same boat.
I've done lots over the years, jobs, voluntary work etc, but people drift in and out of my life and I also wonder if it's me. i genuinely feel people can be quite self absorbed too. Busy with family and work etc.

I've also had lots of health issues of late and have been in pain, not making me the most sociable person to be around! Also in the depths of the menopause!

After my hysterectomy, I will evaluate my life to see where it's heading.

Good luck, it won't be you, it's just how things are at times.

P.s I agree with the comment about people being forgotten after they've left a job. I feel like this having been off work for a week sick. I've got a fair few weeks of recovery in front of me after Friday and I feel pretty much redundant already! 🥺

Never believe you are unpopular, you just haven’t met your tribe.

Lots of suggestions here. I joined a walking group and made new friends. There is so much out there to get involved with where you will meet like minded people.

If you spent most of your time working, with your family or with your sister, and prefer solitary activities, you will have had neither the motivation or time to develop friendships. Now your sisters circumstances have changed and you've lost the day to day human interaction of work (which often serves as enough!) It feels like there's a gap and yours wondering why. Truth iscthere won't be a reason that's connected to how attractive you are as a friend. If you were unattractive to people you'd have picked up the signals by now. It's circumstantial and you can fix it, because there are many people who will be in your position. You just need to follow the advice on here on ways to meet them.

Retirement is a huge challenge for everyone. Have a look at your local U3A and also Meetup