So my ex text me on my birthday at midnight…

[bananasinabowl]

But didn’t wish me happy birthday. Just hoped I was well.
at 00:02am.
we are both married.
I haven’t spoken to him in months.

sigh. It probably means nothing but I can’t help but think he did it on purpose.

so annoyed.
I haven’t replied. I won’t for a few days/weeks or not at all.

When he gets in touch by getting around your blocks, do you respond?

It's a bit creepy/stalkery if he's doing this regularly.

If you do ever respond, it's kind of teaching him that eventually you will crack and start talking to him again, so he might as well keep trying.

If you really want him to stop, it might be worth responding one last time something to the effect that you no longer want contact and perceive him getting around your blocks as harassment and will take it to the police if it continues. Then never respond again, and if he does continue, consider taking it to the police.

I haven’t heard from him in months.
He messages me after midnight at 00:02am and not actually wishing me Happy Birthday.
It’s because I know him and he always used to play games. Hence why I broke up with him.
He may not realise he does it or that I know he does.
Eg last time he messaged, I replied and he spent 6 weeks to reply to me even though I knew he’d been online and looked at my stories and commented on my posts etc. Then got annoyed that I took my time to reply to him.

Like what is the point of messaging me. He knows I don’t give a fudge if I don’t hear from him.

Why haven't you blocked him then?

Sounds like you give more than a fudge. Why wouldn't he already be blocked if a text is going to have such an impact on your day? If my ex text me on my birthday, my response would be 'it's been a while! I'm great thanks how are you' and it would not ruin my day. You chose to marry someone else, which assuming you're happy with that decision, I don't get why this is such an issue.

Do you want contact with him or not want contact with him?

Sounds like you're still attached to him. I wouldn't give a stuff if an ex messaged me. I'm happily married.

I think you're getting a hard time OP! Completely understand why this would throw you. Glad you have shaken it off and are ok now. Hope you managed to enjoy your birthday. He totally did this on purpose, it's no coincidence to do it on your birthday.

So what? What’s your question OP?

if you’re both married, it just sounds like he’s a dick to keep contacting you? Unless it’s purely on a friendship basis, is that what you mean? . It’s totally unclear. Is it just like you’re liking the attention?

I get it @bananasinabowl he will no doubt try and make contact again- no response is the best response

He wasn't thinking about you when he messaged. He was thinking about himself - he was bored or drunk or needing an ego boost. He wanted to put himself in your mind. Block him on everything - tighten up on your settings so that strangers cannot message you on things like FB. Don't reply. He's a prick.

My giving a fudge is completely untrue though? You care enough to start a thread and give it headspace all day, on your birthday. You need to block him from everything you are on and set your privacy so non friends can contact you.

If you can ignore, just ignore. If not just block.