Morning all. I'm just posting for some advice. Spoken to friends irl but could do with some opinions from people that don't know us.
For context I've been with Dh for 19yrs and married for 10. We have 2xdc age 14 and 11. Both of us just about to turn 40.
This past year we have grown apart. Dh likes to drink most nights and ends up falling asleep on the sofa. Sex life has dwindled. I got a promotion at work and threw myself into that plus I took up an online degree to further my work opportunities.
It all came to a head in October when i was working over a weekend and asked him to do the food shop. He decided to drink beer and watch sport most of the weekend. I became angry and told him I wasn't happy and things needed to change. Later that night he came home and said he didn't think he was in love with me anymore and the spark had left our marriage. He said he wanted out and was going to leave. I was devastated and stayed with my parents for a couple of nights just to get some space.
When I came home he told me he missed me, he was sorry and that he had been hasty in saying it was over. He has also completely denied that another person is involved. We agreed to work on our marriage. Try to have some date nights etc. He has even cut down on drinking and we're sharing a bed. I've been making an effort suggesting things to get us back on track but he doesn't seem to be doing the same. He just tells me things were said and he can't switch back on. I feel like I'm in limbo
Fast forward to last night and we had been a bit flirty and I asked him to come to bed with me. He said no and I was a little crushed. When he did come upstairs I tried to talk to him about it and he just said he's not there yet and then slept in my sons room. This morning he came into our room and gave me cuddle and said sorry. I just don't know where I stand. My head is spinning.