Boundaries between ex with children

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Hi,
I have been going out with a guy now for 6 moths. He has a 11 year old daughter and i have a 7 year old boy. My bf normally has his daughter Friday to Saturday night. This is my 1st time going out with someone with a kid so i am not sure what to expect of his relation with his ex. I have noticed that when ever his ex needs time to do things she will ask him and he would look after his daughter and also other things that i find strange. For example when hi ex and daughter went back from holidays he pick them up from station and he said his daughter brought him a bottle of whiskey. Also, he said his daughter was staying with him that day as he ex needed to do washing. Another example his ex bought a new car and he said that his daughter went to his house to show him the new car. Also, he told me his ex have a house in another country where she is from and he has stayed that house when he goes on holiday there with his daughter. Also, that his ex was going to get rid off a rice cooker so he took it for him. Also, he said that his ex is going running so he is looking after the daughter. What do you think about this? I understand he needs to help with his daughter but i find other things very strange. The daughter has a dog and for example when his ex go to work he needs to keep the dog and if his ex and daughter cannot take the dog with them one day he looks after him. I find the relation between him and his ex very close. They split up when his daughter was 6 months. The ex left him.

i can’t believe you use fact that and he said his daughter brought him a bottle of whiskey back from holiday as an example 😂

He and his ex get on well, do each other favours and co-parent together.

Nothing in this sounds strange.

It sounds like they co-parent well.

What happens when you are together? If she calls, does he go running (except in an emergency?)

op you have started a load of threads another this guy and how he doesn’t seem interested i. you. in fact he has told you explicitly Then I started asking what about the plans he was making with me and he said he is not sure about having feelings for me.

I think it shows what a good Dad he is and how respectful he is of his ex. He’s trying to be an active co-parent a lot of men could learn from him. If you don’t like it then you probably need to find a partner who doesn’t have kids.

It all sounds good and healthy to me. Not every couple who split up hate each other or try to cause trouble.

He sounds like he has a good co-parenting agreement with his ex and they get along well and treat each other like family.

If this is an issue for you, you should break up with him.
If you don't trust him, you should break up with him.

It sounds a healthy and mature coparenting situation imo. I respect people who still maintain a good relationship with their ex (obviously when split was reasonably amicable)

My ex and I give each other lifts, help each other out etc and there’s nothing between us other than sharing a (now adult) son.

What you’ve described sounds normal to me and don’t see how any of it can be seen as strange.

Id rather date someone like this than a man who slags off his ex or has a hostile relationship.

Sounds like he is just being a good dad! I know they are as rare as hens teeth according to MN 🤣

How exactly do you think their relationship should look? Decide what normal should be for you and then work on that yourself if I were you. What appears is that he is a good guy.