Suspicious

[cpat122]

Hi ladies,

My long term partner was out late last week and I've found what looks like a piece of a necklace in his pocket. What should I do?

Can you check his devices for clues?

Not enough to go on there. I'd not be suspicious if I found that in DHs pocket but I'd ask where it was from.

If I was suspicious then I'd just check his phone.

Very hard to access. Feel sick, unsure next steps.

Does he have form for flirting or cheating? If i found it in DHs pocket I'd think he either found it broken and picked it up drunk, or knew whose it was and intended to give it back.

Wouldn't really cross my mind that he was cheating if that was the only thing I'd found.

Well you clearly don't trust him so you may as well call it a day. Don't shame yourself by stooping to "investigating" like it's some kind of kid's game, this is your adult relationship.

My first thought would have been that he found it on the floor, meant to hand it in wherever he was, then got distracted and forgot. But I trust my DH and that's the key difference.

Either you have a reason not to trust him in which case let this be the last straw, or you don't, in which case you should work on yourself before getting into another relationship.

Either way, once trust is gone, it's almost impossible to get it back.

It kind of bugs me when people say oh you clearly don't trust him like it's a them problem...

The op is trying to make sure she has her facts right. Why does that mean she has to leave?

Unfortunately, many men lie and we've seen that evidenced on here.

So just asking him isn't going to solve it when it's easy for someone to lie.

Plus all relationships are different.

Op can tell something is off. I'd want to investigate first too.

Are you sure it's definitely a piece of a necklace? Is it a damaged piece, or a full charm or something? What on earth would it be doing in his pocket?