ok so myself and dds dad broke up last april after just over 4 yrs of going out.he has always been a partier but when we broke up he basically went crazy, on a 6wk binge. not turning up for her, disapearing for days,including my 2 wks of college exams, completely uncontactable.nearly gave his poor mother a heart attack. then between may and nov was a series of binges, apologies, good behaviour, often sex (even tho he was seeing other girl ), then another binge. these last for days. eventually i told him to go for counselling. he began AA, told me was an alcoholic.his mother, brother and three uncles also are. he has bn out drinkin twice since nov, one time was from a sat nite to a mon morn(small binge for him)and he missed 1st meeting with dds primary school. been off drink since jan but when i asked him to take dd on sat he said he was hoping to have all day off to go out to pub. when i laughed and said 'are you seriously going drinking' he just said 'yes i cant talk about it with you.'
i know i cannot change his behaviour and for a yr i put my life on hold, living through his, lying for him, typical codependant behaviour. what would an independant person do in my situation? just ignore his drinking? i'm so mad . he's completely in denial.