Whirlwind Romance

[ALittleBitConfused1]

Come on then chuck me your stories of how quick you fell in love.
I'm not silly, I've been through more than enough shit to know how to keep a guard up. Bloody hell I've been single years for that very reason.
But....this man has swept me off my feet, not just with his words but with his consistent actions too. I hear myself telling my friends about him and it feels like I'm making this shit up it's so good.
We've both been through the ringer one way or another and I'm familiar with love bombing etc but seriously I've never been treated or spoken to in the way he does.
We've both admitted were falling and were making plans but I guess I'm looking for validation that this could actually work. All abit vague I know, way too much to type in one post but someone said to me the other day, when you know you know, and I've never understood that before.
So come give me some stories of when it happened to you, help a girl out.
Also happy to hear more reasonable logical opinions of the pitfalls too.

Other people's stories are irrelevant, really.
What happens from now on is really up to the two of you.
Of course it's possible to fall hard for someone, become really close and then it all lasting. This is the best case outcome.
It is also possible that the initial high of the new relationship fizzles out. In the early days of "in-lust" - people project the best version of themselves. As time goes on - people revert to who they really are. And this is why - not all relationships that were originally "at first sight" do not make it past 6 or 12 mos.

SO - you don't need other people's stories. Just enjoy and keep going. You'll know if it works (or doesn't) as time unfolds

@Sashya ’s post is very reasonable. Sometimes the person you fell for is the real person, sometimes it’s an artificial ‘new relationship’ high involving thoughtfulness, brilliant conversation, effort, astonishing sex, that tails off into the revelation that their ‘real self’ is a chronic nose picker whose idea of a good time is watching Dave reruns in his y-fronts.

You’ll figure out which.

@Sashya Speak for yourself. It would be nice to read how other people fell in love and something joyful and light, you know, for a change.

@Sashya Also talk about buzzkill re your reply. How do you know what other people need or don't need?

I want to hear other stories too OP. I've been single forever!

Although we've only been together 2 years, me and my DP fell for eachother very quickly. Quite embarrassing to say we told eachother we loved eachother before we'd actually met in person 😂 we spoke all day every day, made plans, and it's currently working out. No idea if it will last as I've been burnt before very badly so I'm just enjoying the now.

My best friend had a whirlwind romance. It all moved incredibly quickly. She had just left an abusive relationship ( which had also been a whirlwind)with the father of her son. She had moved her and her son in with new man within a few months…me and our 2 other friends were so worried and kept advising her to slow down etc etc…. They have now been together 12 years, married for 3 and he is a nIce man who really cares for her and her son and makes them both happy. It was so nice to be wrong about it. Her story makes me think sometimes it’s all just luck . So good luck to you!

He was a badly behaved 15 year old Norwegian metal head recently moved to the UK because of his dad's job and very cross about it. I was a doe eyed 14 year old who thought he was a Norse god. We whirlwinded as only teenagers in love can whirlwind.

18 years, one teen pregnancy, one daughter, three dogs, five cats and a million minutes of being the happiest woman on earth later and it's safe to say we're still whirlwinding to this day. I've known he was my person since they day I laid my stupid teenage eyes on him, and even now much older and wiser I feel the same.

I'm a cynic and a sceptic and quite often a big old killjoy, but in matters of love I truly believe when you know, you know.

And even if you're wrong who gives a shit, enjoy that wonderful feeling as long as possible.

I've been with my husband more than 40 years and we both knew within 6 weeks that this was really special. We were talking about mortgages, marriage and babies within that time - although none of that happened for another 6 years.

I went out on a Friday night out with friends when I was 25. Living my best life, great job, great social life, not looking for a relationship at all. Bumped into a guy, we got talking. I went into work on Monday telling my workmates that I’d met the man I was going to marry, despite being very vocally anti-marriage up until then. They were all 😳. He proposed 2 weeks later, and here we are 28 years, 2 kids and numerous animals on, still happy.
It can happen!

I've shared a bit of my story before but I'll do so again (as our wedding day approaches) for the fun of it!

DP and I were high school sweethearts back in the day, 12 years ago now. We both moved back to our hometown at nearly the exact same time (a little over a year ago), and he reached out to see if I'd like to meet up. I took my dog and was very clear that we were just meeting up AS FRIENDS, but as soon as I laid eyes on him it was instant attraction 😅I knew I was in trouble.

We saw each other every single day after that and things naturally (but quickly) progressed. Both of us had been through very unfulfilling, long relationships and knew exactly what we wanted. It also helped that we were just an absolute perfect match for one another. I genuinely believe he's my soulmate, in every sense of the word. Definitely "twin flames"!

Anyways, to make a long story short: we're getting married on the 25th! Happy endings do exist, and I would've been the biggest cynic regarding that statement before reuniting with him.

My Sil met her DH at 17 and they were married 6 weeks later. They were married 27 years when he sadly died and were still very much in love up until that day. They literally had eyes for no other, still held hands, still always lit up when they saw each other enter a room.

Someone l know got married a few weeks after meeting someone and 40 years on still very happy together.
But what l will say is that people who tend to fall in love quick, fall out of love even quicker. Some people have a definite pattern/ history of this so just be mindful.

I love all your replies, so nice 🥰

Immediately.
I went to work one day leaving my house and fiancé behind, someone I worked with professed there desire to have a chance with me and I never went home. Literally never saw my ex again after I said goodbye for work.

It took 6 months to not feel like a fraud and that it wouldn't all back fire.

6 years later, married, DC, own business and new house

God, I'm going to be a buzzkill and say keep your wits about you. It might work BUT it might not. There's no reason not to take things slower. If someone is keen they won't mind. You can't really love someone immediately because you don't know them and - crucially - how they'll react to difficulties, tough times etc. Taking time to get to know someone isn't a bad thing. I think it's different if it's a random you've met online or someone you've previously built up a friendship with by the way. But love bombing (and it might not be that, but it might be) puts the other person - the less invested person - in a position of control. You don't want to be a shit relationship.

Is it just me or is this post a bit off?
Strange wording….more like a man wrote it…after a collection of stories maybe?

Thanks for all your posts, too many to tag.

And thanks for all the cautious ones too, I get it.
I wont go into details but we've both been through some really shit times. We both know each others back stories and they are very different but still left us broken. It's kind of that that seems our biggest connection, that and the fact that we roar with laughter whenever we are together.

Yeah sure the sex is great but that's just a small part of it. Definitely in no rush and while we check in every day and defo make the effort to see eachother more than some would class as normal at this very early stage it doesnt feel rushed, although it is alot more than either of us seem to have expected.

I cant offer him anything he cant offer himself and vice versa so right now I'm just going with the flow and taking it for what it is.

But these stories have warmed my usually cynical heart.

Oh I'm defo not a man trying to gather intelligence, as I think the last poster was getting at. I'm just concious that to go into the full story wouldve been a shed load of info, and part of it isnt my story to tell.

I'll keep my fingers crossed that this doesnt end in disaster and enjoy the ride 😁

Unless your fiancé was horrendously abusive, that's utterly appalling and crazy in equal measure.

That's not a bad idea..... enjoy the ride whilst being aware that you don't know each other very well at this stage. You could turn out to be incompatible in some significant part of life. He could be hiding who he truly is. The fire could burn bright for a few months then fizzle out. All those are scenarios which regularly happen. It could turn out that you're a great match and will become life partners.

So long as you know that there are no guarantees, and you need to take care of your heart as you feel your way into it.

One last thing - if something seems too good to be true, it usually is.

@harerunner the relationship was extremely volatile and we have broken up
Numerous time over, it was highly likely we were only still together to be able so he had somewhere to live and I could afford my mortgage.

I left because the I was so overcome with excitement at the possibility that someone so funny, kind and hard working it ignited something in me that made me realise my worth and happiness. I didn't love my ex but I respected him.

Ex sent me a message asking what I was doing after work (sometimes I stayed late, went to gym, shop etc) and I replied I'll be straight home as there was something I wanted to talk to him about.

He replied if I want to break up again don't bother and don't come home. So I didn't.

A friend of mine met a guy earlier this year, beginning of the summer. They're in their 60s. They've been married for almost two months now...

Ok, that's makes sense. Apologies for judging without knowing the bigger picture.