Partner lying ?? What do you think to this situation ?

[Mummy32023]

ill try make this as short as possible but 🤦‍♀️

so a couple of weeks ago my partner recieved a message from a female basically call me when your alone … calling him babes ect but there was nothing else saved on the mobile device.
so i have messaged said woman asking why .
to my surprise I’ve recieved messages back from this person ….. this woman is claiming that she has been seeing my partner for 3 years on and off stating it has been sexual and they have seen one and other around 4 times in this space for sexual meetings let’s call it.
apparently she is pregnant but won’t give any more information than that really about her self.
saying she wish she never met him, she no longer wants anything to do with him, over apologies to me several times ,
the profile is very vague that she is using but she has stated it’s a back up account and she’s not used her original one with name on .
i confronted my partner about this and he said it’s all a lie but …..
i e asked her questions while we had our messages back and fourth and there’s stuff she knows that only someone he knew could anwser .
his car and colour
majority of his phone number
his job
his gym

• I asked about what tattoo was on his arm to see if they really knew him and I know he doesn’t have any tattoos although he does have scars and yep with lout a doubt they knew this too!!

This turned into quite a argument when I confronted him with this - he went very distant with me and bearly spoke to me for a good nearly 24hrs because apparently it’s lies and I should believe him and he doesn’t have anyway to prove it to me - saying someone must be doing it to brake us up , I don’t have anyone that would do that ? And don’t think he would either tbh

he’s still searching the profile it’s come from on f*book regularly - I’ve seen in his history - yes I’ve checked - may I add it’s the first time i ever gone snooping on his phone

my mind is going awol
he had a night out last year and came back with make up all over his top - said was from giving people cuddles to say bye 🤷‍♀️ this also ended up me having silent treatment for longer than 24hr he was distant and off with me when I asked about it -

it just all doesn’t seem to be adding up and becoming harder for me to approach

There might not be a baby

If a woman contact me out of the blue with concerns about messages her partner had received from me, I wouldn't jump to inventing a pregnancy. Would you?

Sorry lovely, you know the answer but you haven't had time to process it. I've been there myself (cheating husband) and it leaves you in shock and denial. You won't get the truth from your husband without a lot of tears and drama and even then he'll only tell you what you want to hear. He'll beg forgiveness, tell you it was a one night stand, it was all the other woman's fault blah blah blah. The only reason he'll be sorry is because he got caught. Look up "the Script".

Cut and run. He's horrible for giving you the silent treatment whatever he's done, and for going out late/getting covered in make up when he knows how upset you are right now.

you'll never trust him again and I think on the balance of probabilities he's cheated.

Makes no sense that it’s someone trying to split you up as you contacted her after seeing she had messaged him. He’s lying.

She’s almost certainly telling the truth. These mysterious women that cheating men make out are lurking out there plotting to break people up do not exist, they really don’t (except in extraordinarily rare stalker cases, in which case she wouldn’t know these details).

He’s lying, of course he’s lying!

He is lying.

Put yourself in his shoes.... if a man got in touch, and told your partner that he'd been having an affair with you, what would you do?

Would you be intrigued why this person is lying, determined to get to the bottom of it, and in the meantime reassure your DP that they were lying?

Or would you give your DP the silent treatment for a day or two?

His silent treatment is in itself abusive. And in this case, it's also a sign he's guilty of cheating. By giving you the silent treatment he doesn't have to talk (and he knows he can't explain why this woman knows what she knows, so that's handy) whilst also punishing you for daring to ask questions, and training you to stay compliant in the future.

Please leave him.

This!

It really makes me laugh the stupid stories men come up with to explain their cheating!

Like he's so important or attractive some random stranger would specifically target him to break up his relationship.

This is reality tv storylines, not real life.

Occam's razor - He's a liar and a cheat

I don't think the woman was upset, I reckon it was an act, I doubt she'd have been calling him babes if she was upset

so a couple of weeks ago my partner recieved a message from a female basically call me when your alone … calling him babes ect