I've been with DH for 20 years and we have 3 DC. We've been mainly happy until the last few years when we've lost our way.
I've told him many times that I'm unhappy and lonely. I explain why and tell him small things he could do that would improve the situation (like putting his phone down more often and talking to me, for example) but nothing ever changes.
He tells me he loves me but I don't feel it anymore. His response to my suggestions is to say that I make him feel inadequate and that nothing he does is enough. He becomes angry with me. He's actually angry or irritated a lot of the time. I can't ask him to empty the bins or change a light bulb or remind him about it a few days later without being accused of getting on to him and it often descends into an argument.
He calls me every day on his break from work but the conversation literally lasts about 20/30 seconds. It feels like he's doing it because he thinks it's expected, rather than calling to genuinely check in on us. If it's his day off and I want to go to the shop I'll ask him to come with me for the company. He complains and says I'm too needy and he's too tired.
Our DC are very well behaved apart from the usual sibling squabbles but he moans at them constantly and will make them upset when they had been in a perfectly good mood. I draw the line at this and call him out on it. He gets defensive, then a while later he gets upset and says I'm right and he'll change. He never does. We go round in circles and I'm exhausted with it all.
I think I have to accept that if he isn't willing to listen or work on our issues then it's over, isn't it? Reading that back it seems like he doesn't actually like me much. I don't know how it came to this. On top of it all, my mum is terminally ill so I don't feel strong enough to make any decisions or uproot the DCs lives any more.