DH's sister and her husband are really starting to cause us a lot of stress.
My DH is a very modest kind of guy, he's quite shy and isn't one to cause any drama. I am very much the same but I am struggling to deal with his sister and her husband more and more as time goes on.
She has grown up knowing how to play her parents, and she is very good at moaning about my DH and his 'lack of effort with her' so that PIL give DH a hard time.
The fact is my husband and I can't stand her husband and so we try to avoid any contact but kids birthdays/Christmas, His behaviour is also rubbing off on her and she's become very similar which is a shame because she used to be a lot nicer.
BIL is the sort of person who does nothing but brags about everything. And my DH does a lot but brags about nothing, and so any time spent with them is really hard work.
If we do anything, BIL will find one negative in it. For example for moved to a house in a nice part of the town, so BIL has nothing nice to say about the house but "now you have a further drive to take the kids to school" - like he was looking for the one negative thing and had to bring it up, and he'll do this with anything.
I'm really struggling with him looking for faults in everything we do, whereas we would always give compliments and try and make people feel good; he will always try and make people feel bad. SIL is also someone who shows very little interest in anyone else but happy to talk about herself and her family for hours.
PIL seems to think BIL is "alright" and ignore when he's rude. Given are kids are all friends it's difficult to avoid him.
DH won't say anything because he tells me he doesn't care enough to make it a big deal, he tells me he doesn't like BIL but he's happy to rise above it and not see them very often. Problem is I am struggling to rise above it and see them as much as we do feels too much!
Anyone else have this issue? Do you have any tips to help me rise above it?