Is this controlling behaviour ?

[Summerberry22]

My youngest daughters dad doesn’t like my eldest daughters family and my eldest daughters auntie and cousin had trouble years ago with my youngest daughters dads sister . I have been hanging out with my daughters auntie and cousin but my youngest daughters dad was moaning saying he doesn’t like me with them and doesn’t like them himself even though he’s never met them before as they had problems with his sister . He’s said he knows his sister can be gobby and that’s still his younger sister he says and also says he doesn’t like them and he’s never met these girls before in his life. Is this a form of control ?

sorry I keep saying youngest daughters dad as were both a bit complicated at the moment .

Why is knowing the answer to this question so important to you? If it IS a form of control, are you intending to make that specific point to your youngest daughter's dad?

Or is your question really "do we think he is acting reasonably or do we think it would be reasonable for you to ignore his stated position?"

If ‘saying he doesn’t like me with them’ means he is suggesting you spend less or no time with them, and showing his disapproval in other ways, that is indeed controlling behaviour.

Also suggests a lack of respect and concern for you and your elder daughter - they are part of her family.

Your post is really difficult to follow OP but if I'm understanding then I'd say no, not controlling. He's just expressing his opinion, not demanding you don't spend time with them (from what you've said).

Depends why. If they abuse drugs and alcohol whilst being around kids, he has a valid reason. That's not control, that's concern.

Is he your DP? And is he saying he doesn't like them so you mustn't spend time with them? Becuase yes, that would be controlling. Although having said that, a lot of people would argue that spending time with an ex's family isn't necessarily ideal. I'm not one of those people as I think that if you have DC being able to maintain a positive relationship with extended family is a good thing, but it's quite common.

Really don't understand how your two DDs families can have so much involvement that they don't like each other.

My head hurts from the reading but no I wouldn't say controlling as there is reasons and he is not actually trying to stop you though. Does sound like alot of drama tbf

Scrap that after reading previous posts you just need to walk away from all men for both your daughters sake and do some work on yourself. You broke up with this man a couple weeks ago ?was chatting to some other man ? He took your phone ?previous dv relationships ? It's all just pure toxic