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Dreaming and thinking of her ex

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Greasley2k14 · 13/11/2023 23:13

So my girlfriend (sophie) has recently come out of a 9 year relationship with a guy(Jamie)who has kids with her and has treated her little less than a sex toy. He cheated emotionally abused her and was an all out cock to her. She tried to give as much back with the attitude but it fell very short of the mark.

I knew them for 6 years before I actually stepped into the picture. Jamie wanted to sleep with there next door neighbour and as opposed to being cheated on again, she made a deal with him. He xan do what ever with the neighbour and she can do anything with me in the bedroom sense, which he agreed and encouraged.

The first night went a lot better than expected and we hit it off however her now ex partner didn't like how close we were getting and decided to call it all of. That's when Sophie found out he was still sexting other women. So she ended it with him and got with me. However he manipulated her in a way to end it with after only a few weeks and this went on for about 3 months. Until he found another women (abby) and now he's stopped talking to her completely and always causes and argument when he comes round. But she feels shit and horrible to me for having these feelings and dreams because "she loves and is in love with me, but she loves him but isn't in love with him, the love for him won't ever grow" tbh I'm kinda struggling as to what solutions to suggest to her. Sorry for the long rant

OP posts:
GreyCarpet · 14/11/2023 07:49

Well this sounds like a shit show all round.

I'd stay well clear tbh.

Catsafterme · 14/11/2023 08:42

You have got yourself involved in a toxic/abusive relationship and could end up trapped in a cycle of your own that will end up with you hurt.

This situation seems too messy and complicated, risky and I would say keep away for your own sake.

Seaoftroubles · 14/11/2023 08:53

What a mess. Walk away, you are just being used in their toxic relationship. I feel sorry for any children involved in this fiasco.

Watchkeys · 14/11/2023 09:10

Why do you think you need to suggest any solutions to her? Will that feel good for you, if you do that?

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