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How do you parent/ deal with the kids dad who is barely ever around?

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Navigatingthenew · 13/11/2023 18:25

Ex partner only spends about 4 weeks in the uk but it’s just as and when he happens to fly in and be about. He then makes demands about seeing the kids. I find the whole thing so draining to be honest. I basically raise them and do all the hard graft and then he swoops by with loads of gifts and is mr fun. Then off her goes again.

I would love some advice on how I should navigate this and what’s reasonable. Especially with Christmas coming up and him being back briefly. The kids are 7 and 5.

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MintGreenPolo · 13/11/2023 21:50

Are the children happy when they see him? Does he speak to them when he’s back home?

Navigatingthenew · 13/11/2023 23:26

They are a bit apprehensive and become very clingy to me initially. Then they mellow a bit and then he leaves and they end up upset again and looking for reassurance I am not going to leave. It’s such a horrible cycle.

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