Can I ask for help understanding this please?
About a decade ago my half brother came into my life. We have since become close. I enjoy spending time with him and he's kind and supportive and fun. I love having him in my life. I think he is a genuinely great person. He is about 15 years older than me.
However in terms of our lifestyles we are very different. We come from quite a complicated family where parents didn't provide much support at all. However I was lucky in that I had a friend's parent who acted as a pseudo mum to me for years, I completed school and now work a good job and have my own place.
He dropped out of school without any qualifications. He did later do a degree through an access course. He is very intelligent. However he has never held down a job for very long, he works minimum wage in service industry roles and will typically quit after a few months or possibly up to a year and then run his savings down, panic and then get another job. There was a point recently where he basically ran out of money and was nearly homeless and he lived with me for a good period of time as a result. He has credit card debt too. He doesn't have any kids or a partner and doesn't maintain friendships for more than a year typically, they always seem to end.
Currently he rents somewhere nice which I supported him to get.
I find watching his life difficult at times and he is defensive when I try and discuss them with him. His reasoning is that none of this stuff matters as he is going to make it big doing online day trading in the next few months and he just needs to get round to it but hasn't been feeling well recently. I think possibly he could have some physical health issues, autoimmune issues etc that are undiagnosed, however there's a lot more to it than that. He has been saying that for years. He talks about wanting a house, a wife, kids, money etc. However he hasn't dated in the last twenty years and works part time on minimum wage (he could easily get more hours). He frequently refers to how he's about to become incredibly rich soon day trading.
I find it really hard to know what to say to him about any of these things. Occasionally I will try and challenge him on the online day trading idea and he will get angry and defensive and start raising his voice. So I tend to drop it.
He also has a habit of watching YouTube conspiracy videos online and will come out with statements about how women really just want to stay at home and raise babies and don't really want to work and he'll make other comments about how climate change isn't real, or how Black Lives Matter isn't a good movement and shouldn't be supported. I find these things very unpleasant. I do challenge him on these things but it can create a lot of tension. He is quick with words and would talk endlessly on a topic to try and win an argument.
I really enjoy spending time with him and feel lucky he is in my life. However I know that he has no financial security and I don't know what will happen to him as he gets older. He is in his fifties.
I don't know really what I can do, if anything. All of these things are his choices.
I also don't know how likely any of this is to change. I assume not at all? He would never go to therapy. He appears convinced that he is about to make it big day trading and doesn't see any problems.
I don't know how you describe this sort of way of thinking or approach to life, has anyone else come across this? Any advice? I'd love it if he became happier, had more financial security etc, but I feel like I will watch him cycle through these patterns for the rest of my life.
Any perspective would be great.