do you ever feel guilty about what youve done to previous partners?

[mrsdannydyer]

i didn't think i did, until i read the other thread about "What one weird thing has killed a relationship stone dead in an instant for you?"

and it made me think of a bloke id only just met,
who had a photo of his still born child everywhere on the tv, on the walls, when i went to his place for the 1st time, he showed me his photo album of the still born baby.

it was his and his ex gf's baby of course. but this was pre kids so it totally freaked me out, seeing photos of this poor dead baby everywhere, but now as a mother myself i can totally totally understand it, and feel a bit bad that i thought he was so weird.and dumped him pronto.

and i feel a bit bad about being a bitch to this other bloke i went out with pre dh too, his name was tom and because he let me down at the last minute when we where supposed to be going out on saturday night,he said he forgot it was his mates birthday and was going out off out in town.

so there i was already to go out as well so i phoned a friend who was also going out and went out with her,small town one nightclub and got off with another bloke in front of toms face as i was so mad at being stood up, one time ! bloody hell bit harsh, anyway i ended up going out with this new bloke and he turned out to be a right asshole he thought he was the bees knees because he was a professional golfer! please!!
so i guess i got my comeuppence!!

just feel a bit bad as i still know toms cousin though a friend

nope. my concience is clear

your halo is blinding me bot

yep, those who were squashed deserved it

mostly i was v nice tho.

opps i think i may of accidentally squashed a few, but then again i probably got squashed a few times too

can't really remember that though !

....then realises it doesn't fit

Yes, sometimes so guilty I can't breath

really, you want to see someone about that then kimi

I flush with embarrassment at some of the things that I did to men pre-DH...

I really wasn't very nice

I don't feel guilty either ..... unless you can be guilty of being too nice (and consequently getting walked all over).

Some of the men I've been out with actually deserved to have their goolies cut off with a very blunt knife (and not just for the obvious reasons) and, if only I'd had the guts to do it (metaphorically, I'm not a complete loony) I definitely wouldn't be feeling guilty about it now.

I regret - for my own self-esteem reasons - that I wasn't nastier where deserved. But you live and learn.

I was horrendous, a proper little Diva.

Two timing was my speciality. I cringe now when I think about it.

I once came home to find someone had fired a bullet through my bedroom window...house mates were hysterical but I sort of knew that I deserved it. Landlord less than impressed but next boyfriend shag was deeply impressed...

Classy men!

I feel bad about leaving DH

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Now it is all flooding back.

I still owe some poor man a large chunk of his student grant that he leant me so I could go on holiday with someone else... and then conveniently avoided him...

And I really should not have gone to bed with the mechanic who was working on then boyfriends car...bit messy

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It was something to do with not being exactly honest with one man about me and his best friend IYSWIM

And then there was the cringe-worthy incident when I was taken out for dinner by man who I did not particularly like but did quite like the contents of his wallet. We were seated next to another couple of whom I was seeing the man and was falling for him in a big way although he had failed to mention his wife who I was then sitting next to on the banquette ...

We spent hours in this restaurant with me and other man glancing/glaring at each other wondering which circle of hell this was...

yes, but it's not good dwelling on the past.

Expat is right

Although knowing what I go up to does make me wonder about what DD will do. I got myself in some pretty precarious situations and was lucky.

i was unfaithful to ex, but don't feel guilty about it, am sure he was unfaithful as well.

now he's on facebook as 'in an open relationship' so don't think much has changed in 12 years for him.

Oh, a few. Some men who had mad crushes on me who I wouldn't shag - they were very nice but I just wasn't interested and in one or two cases I suppose I took advantage over things like getting lifts everywhere and being bought beers.
And I did make a dreadful mess of splitting up with one partner about 15 years ago, still he has forgiven me now and he and his DW are still good friends of mine.

blimey at bullet

I was unfaithful, almost always, until I met dh1/dh2

unreliable, would just not turn up sometimes because I got a better offer (pre mobiles)

Would use wiles, i.e. spraying my perfume on light bulbs so that when they warmed up the room smelled of me and boyf missed me. Ditto phone receiver and pillows.

dumped men unceremoniously if they showed any sign of weakness or commitment

stillborn baby man sounds a bit deranged tbh OP

I was awful to one guy, really put him through the mill but I did apologise to him about a year after we broke up. He was fine and we were on speaking terms for about another 18mo when we drifted apart. He rang me a couple of times when he needed moral support which was nice.

Nope. I have never done anything bad. Ever. Always had it done to me.

When I was single I couldn't bring myself to dump anyone because I didn't want them to feel rejected. So I used to do everything on dates that was meant to turn men off but without fail it backfired.

I got blind drunk at a posh restaurant with a very consertive guy and the date thought I was fun.

I told a date that I wanted to have kids asap (I was 22 he was 32). He told me that he did as well and had given himself a deadline of becoming a father before he was 35.

I tried to avoid dating men who would want a commitment. That didn't work either. Apparently the sexiest thing a guy can ever hear is "I don't want to get seriously involved with you". They take it on as a challenge!