Feeling sorry for myself

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ive always been independent. Not always through choice. There are many things I do myself because it’s easier to just get on with it than ask DH or family or colleagues and have them forget, fuss, delay. But sometimes I feel this has led to me being taken for granted. Whether I’ll manage or cope is never a concern. Because I will. It’s fraying. I am very British in just keeping calm and carrying on. Fussing little. Complaining little. And forgotten, taken for granted. The chair people sit in. Has anyone else felt similar? strength and independence sometimes mean you are just left to carry on. A lot of giving in your part but little getting. Or so it seems.

There's a big difference between being strong and independent and doing everything because you're 'put upon'.

There's a big difference between being strong and independent and being someone who can't assert themselves and lets others walk all over them.

I don't think strong, independent people feel unseen and taken for granted.

I think you've created a narrative of being strong and independent to protect yourself from facing up to the fact that others take you for granted and you're not strong enough to change it.

Being strong means putting boundaries in place and asking for what you need and not just doing everything yourself. Being independent means taking care of yourself too.