Am I a nasty person?

[2kitkats]

I was pottering round trying to organise the kitchen, washing, currently overdue my baby and waiting for things to start happening.

My partner is off and starts leave from tomorrow so today he's done a food shop & gamed, watched sport.

He made my tea a microwave meal, then put his ready meal in oven. The oven beeped when his was ready and as I was in kitchen I turned oven off and carried on pottering, took some washing up. He was expecting me to walk in with his tea, I didn't as he was doing nothing and I was already doing something else. He knew it was ready as the oven alarm was loud.

He then called me nasty & said I've always been a nasty person.

Was I mean in not serving it To him? I do all the cooking usually as he works and I've been at home past month.

Stop cooking anything for this man.

If you even need to ask then your partner is the nasty person for making you feel this way. Of course you aren’t! And what a trivial thing him to kick off about. You’ve spent all day pottering about with a bowling bowl hanging off your front while he’s sat with his feet up gaming and watching telly (don’t make excuses for him - we all know a shop takes half an hour and gaming takes hours!)

You aren’t nasty, you sound brown beaten, how will he cope when you have a baby and you have to prioritise making a bottle over serving his tea… will you be nasty then?

That's a red flag. He put the meal in, he knew it was ready. You are 9 months pregnant ...and he calls you nasty? Can you share your feelings with him, tell him that you don't feel safe with him when he says things like that. Suggest counselling asap or there's no future in your relationship. All the best.

It's not looking good for you op.

He's the nasty person here. Not you.

Cheers Everyone. I just did @Galectable now he's laughing saying he was only messing he didn't mean it & he's sorry & obviously I'm not nasty.
Just too sensitive

@Galectable

Did he take the fact you turned the oven off as a sign you were getting the meal out? If I heard my dinner beep but then my DH turned the beeping off, I'd probably think 'ooh, he's getting it out for me'. I don't think I'd just sit there and wait and I wouldn't be mean if he didn't, but it could have been a misunderstanding. That maybe felt a bit mean given he made your tea for you.

Well done on confronting him. Keep talking about your feelings- that you are scared/anxious/apprehensive about being overdue (whatever you feel) and right now please you need kindness from him not jokes. Sadly blokes are often out of their depth and need a lot of nudging. Hopefully he responds well. Good luck xx