Help am I being used?

[Sarahblack1876]

I have been in a relationship for 6 months now and I seem to pay for everything
Yes I earn alot more than him but he never seems to buy me anything nor pay for dinner. He has never said I love you but he has strong feelings for me, cares about me and calls me his gf.
He has a child and so do I which we have all met up a few times. I spoke to my partner earlier to ask to borrow his laptop as mine broke and I need to do work. His response was I don't really want my son seeing us together 3 days in a row. I really like him alot I mentioned I felt used and he got upset and promised me he wasn't but I'm having really strong doubts! We have been away 7x in 6 months abroad in which I paid for all of it!

Maybe I'm being selfish and overthrowing?__

No don't pay for everything, please.

If a person has a modicum of decency they would not want you to. It's easy to have cheap breaks away which would be more in line with his budget and he can damn well pay for his share.

Actually he's a tosser, you deserve better. But you HAVE to stick up for yourself. He won't do it.

once again on here, im shocked at just how much crap women tolerate!!! and why does he have your card? please throw this one back, you deserve so much better

Why on earth does he have your card?!
He is using you, but you are being daft giving him your card op, please tell me he hasn't got it on him right now.

I was thinking this. OP sorry but you're a bit of a mug if you've got to 7 holidays abroad (in 6 months!) and you've paid for all of them. Not to mention the rest. I'd have dumped him a long while back.

... stop being daft and letting this idiot bleed you dry. Get out. Now.

Pay less and ask for more. If he’s using you, you will soon know it.

Why are you acting like a doormat and why does he have your bloody card?????

You need to accept responsibility for enabling his cheeky fuckery.

He saw you coming.

It’s been 6 months!

Stop acting so desperate and slow it down or better yet end things and find someone who doesn’t just see you as a cash cow.

Why does he have your card?? You are only together 6 months

I agree I was with my ex for 8 years and he cheated on me I'm so scared deep down tbh

Not good! I didn't have much money when I met my future dh but i always insisted on paying my way and treated him with vouchers i could gather up, cook him a nice meal etc. He was working and I was a student and did pay more than me but knew I wasn't expecting it. Years later I was the higher earner and reciprocated the generosity because I could afford to. No brainer, he's taking the piss! X

Please please please get rid and finds someone who deserves you!

get your card back off him straight away.

Yes he is using you. I bet if you add up everything like groceries, small shopping trips as well as all the big things that you are paying for you’re saving him a fortune.

I wouldn’t even give him the opportunity to ‘prove’ himself to be honest. You’ll find he pays for one meal out to treat you and then within a fortnight you’ll be back to paying for everything as the high-earner; it’ll end up being the most expensive meal you’ve never paid for in your life.

So he doesn’t want you to be too present in his son’s life, while he’s holding your bank card and enjoying paid holidays.

He has boundaries OP, where are yours?

How fucking cheeky, suggesting holidays for you to pay for!!
Hell yes he is using you.

Of course he's sponging off you OP, stop treating him and paying for holidays and then see what happens. Also, why on earth did he have your card, and use it without your permission? Chuck this one back he sounds awful.

I think you should end it. Don't play games and test him, just end it. I am sorry to add to your hurt but he doesn't respect you and you must know you deserve better.