13 year relationship ended months ago. Really worried about the future

[Miss2009]

My one and only relationship I have ever had, for 13 years ended about 7 months ago. I'm really worried about my future.

I have always wanted to get married and have a family since a young age. That never worked out in the relationship as my ex boyfriend was always on the fence.

Since we broke up I've been panicking that I may never achieve my goal of finding someone special to get married to and have a family with.

I'm 36 and I fear it's too late to hope for that😔 I know I'm not ready for another relationship just yet as my ex boyfriend has only just moved out (long story)

I'm still processing the break up, not ready for a relationship and want to be a mother all at once as I'm panicking time is running out 😔

I'm still processing the break up, not ready for a relationship and want to be a mother all at once as I'm panicking time is running out 😔

I’m in exactly the same position, OP. I am half heartedly on the datings apps due to ticking biological clock but I know deep down it’s not right to start anything with someone new while I am still trying to get over my last relationship.

It’s a rubbish place to be. I don’t know the answer.

Stop panicking. ✋️ rest, be kind,get some perspective and counselling. There is nothing productive that will come from this panic and worry. It certainly will only hinder these goals. Take some time out from these thoughts.

Best thing I ever did was spend two years being single in mid 30s. It sorted me out so much and meant when I met my lovely DP I was already 'whole', if that makes sense.

I did this in my early 30s before meeting exDP who I thought (and still think) was the one.

That has been the hardest thing, actually - knowing that I did all of that work on myself and attracted my kind of man but then I still couldn’t make the relationship work.

That's tough @Crushed23 but his loss. You'll find someone even better and be glad it didn't work out with the first guy.

Do I still have time to have a family as I'm 36? It's something I really want. I feel I'm under so much pressure with everything.