Did I do something really wrong ?

[Summerberry22]

Me and my partner of 3 years we had broken up a week ago . I had broken up with him because he knew he was in the wrong at the time because I had come back from
the nail shop with my friend who he doesn’t really like and bevause he has been waiting at home , I had been texting him telling him I need too wait for this women to finish as it was taken ages . I come back anyways and he was shouting at me and going on about how weird it was and why I was so long . I got really upset and ended it with him as we’ve been having arguments and have told him to communicate so many times instead of raising his voice but didn’t change and I was very depressed for months and months .

I have been in the care system I have been in a very bad dv relationship beforehand with someone else and have been neglected so I get so down in life also especially when alone.
My daughter dad came round yesterday so 6days or 5days from relationship ended to help sort out my home and went shop took my phone with him without me knowing and saw messages with me and someone else saying that I was going too meet him on the weekend and flipped out at me calling me a whore and how I’ve moved on so quick . I was just hurting and he thinks I was going to have sex with him I really wasn’t

He was meant to watch the kids for me today so I can go out with my friends to there house and because I said to this guy I’ll meet him after my friends, I wasn’t going too I said to my daughters dad I was just entertaining him tbh . But I feel bad I don’t know and now he’s calling me every name under the sun

Change your passcode OP, and don't give him a second thought. If you've broken up (and honestly it sounds like the right decision; the less toxic behaviour around you the better) then it's none of his business who you're texting and for what purposes.

It's very controlling to steal your phone and snoop.

No, you didn't do anything wrong. You are around unhealthy people. Breaking up with someone who shouts at you is the best thing to do, that is an abusive relationship. An ex who looks through your phone is not a good person, he is controlling. Was that the ex where the was DV?

Ending an abusive relationship and then going on a date is fine is that is what you want to do and if it is fun for you and not too much of a rush for you. It does not make you a whore. You should not trust anyone in your life who calls you a whore.

Your standards for how people treat you are too low. You have not done anything wrong. You may expect very little from people because you have been in the care system and possibly not seen what a healthy relationship looks like.

So is it your DD's dad who broke into your phone and is ranting at you?
Or did I read that wrong?

Speak to someone about doing the Freedom programme op. When you have been in a bad relationship it is very easy to fall into another one through no fault of your own. You do not deserve to be treated badly whatever men have told you.